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I need to go to the GP, really not coping too well

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ORANGEgiraffesCantWearGOLD · 14/09/2012 05:30

I thought I was, but am not. Not sure what to say to them. Going to try get appointment for today because I really can't face this weekend.

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BeaWheesht · 14/09/2012 05:41

Insist on an appointment and just be totally and utterly honest

Wish I could say more

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ORANGEgiraffesCantWearGOLD · 14/09/2012 05:55

Am going to phone when they open. 2.5 hours to go! Had considered it before but thought I would be ok.

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TantrumsAndGoldAndOrange · 14/09/2012 05:57

It's not a bad thing to need a bit of help and support. Don't feel you have to "just get on with it"
Wishing you lots of love and luck.

Keep talking on here if it helps. xx

TantrumsAndGoldAndOrange · 14/09/2012 05:58

And don't worry about what you are going to say. Just tell them how you feel, honestly, and they will be able to help.

OhNoMyFoot · 14/09/2012 06:05

Would it help if you write it down? I think once you start you might find it all comes tumbling out.

peggyblackett · 14/09/2012 06:26

(((Hugs))) we're always here for you if it helps. I hope you can get an appointment OK.

EarthMotherImNot · 14/09/2012 06:27

Oh sweetheart, and why should you be? I second wholeheartedly what OhNo has suggested.

I had to see my GP a while back but I knew once I started speaking I'd cry and I can't speak clearly while crying. I typed out exactly what I wanted to tell them, including my worries/fears over what could be wrong with me. Once I got to the surgery I asked the receptionist to give it to him before I went in and he was wonderful.

It can't hurt. Good luck and lots of love x

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ORANGEgiraffesCantWearGOLD · 14/09/2012 06:36

I know I have tried the increased exercise, talking, being busy etc thing and now I just feel myself slipping. Have been depressed before and don't want to be like that again, was horrible. Struggling to muster up excitement about anything really!

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TantrumsAndGoldAndOrange · 14/09/2012 06:50

It's good that you are taking the steps to get help.
Just be honest with the GP about how you are feeling. That's the first step. And then take it from there xx

peggyblackett · 14/09/2012 07:24

Well done for recognising it and getting help. I'll be thinking of you this morning.

BustleInYourHedgerow · 14/09/2012 08:02

You know how to recognise it so. Nothing wrong with asking for help, it's a takes more courage to do that I feel! Write down any points you think you should mention in case you forget and are experiencing that awful fug that comes with depression. Have you looked into attending any bereavement groups in your area? I did when my friend died and found them really helpful, just to be somewhere I could feel comfortable alking about him. Good luck, hope you get an appointment today. X

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ORANGEgiraffesCantWearGOLD · 14/09/2012 08:40

11.20 :)

thanks all.

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TantrumsAndGoldAndOrange · 14/09/2012 09:15

Good luck.

EverlongYouAreGoldAndOrange · 14/09/2012 11:45

It's a good idea giraffe and I hope your GP is understanding.

A good GP who will actually listen is worth it's weight in gold.

I remember going to my GP in the January after Oliver died in the November to say I couldn't cope. He asked me if I had depressive thoughts and symptoms Hmm

Hope you get some support.

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ORANGEgiraffesCantWearGOLD · 14/09/2012 14:28

Well they phoned me back a few min after I posted and they said they had an appointment cancellation at 9.10, so I went down stright away. Was very tearful but the Dr was lovely, he was very kind and understanding. Upped my antidepressants, with a veiw to being up on higher dose for 3 months and come back down. Am happy with that. And also gave me a few numbers of places I could phone if I wanted to talk - I hadn't even considered that. Ironic considering my job!! It was nice to cry and aknowledge how I felt. Was surprised how upset I got. He gave me a wee questionaire thing to do. But reminded me that these feelings are ok and normal within greif process and the memories etc that it brings up. Glad I went now. :)

everlong that is crap! I love the GPs at my practice I have had excellent support from them. And when I burst in to tears on the receptionist this morning she was great. have been at a few Drs practices (moved a lot as a student) and this is by far the best.

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ORANGEgiraffesCantWearGOLD · 14/09/2012 14:30

He said he finds people who have been depressed before can plummit back in to it very easily after a significant event and he used good visual description of how he sees this working, hard to explain in text but I felt he had a good understanding of how depression works.

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EverlongYouAreGoldAndOrange · 14/09/2012 14:33

Ah that's so good he understood and lovely that he treated you kindly.

Be kind to yourself giraffe x

IawnCont · 14/09/2012 14:33

:) Glad you feel he was kind to you, and helpful.
Grief is such a horrible trauma. It's so bloody cruel. As you say, when it does get you down, just the acknowledgement that actually, you're not okay, can feel like such a burden lifted.

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ORANGEgiraffesCantWearGOLD · 14/09/2012 22:32

Thank you

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BustleInYourHedgerow · 15/09/2012 06:42

Glad you got an appointment (and that you have a nice GP). Will be thinking of you. X

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