20 yr passing

[Mother2many]

On the 15, it has been the 20th anniversary of my spouses passing. He left me with 2 boys, ages 1 and 2. Until my boys turned 18, I did everything possible to keep in touch with the inlaws. Never have they shown any acknowledgement of my children until they turned 18.

Even at my spouses funeral, their family all, huddled together, and left me out. So, my family came up to hold me. I never got one sympathy card from anyone on his side of the family/friends.

My dad went above and beyond and went and took the MIL out for lunch on the 15, to acknowledge her.

My dad came with me to the cementary. My sisters didn't acknowledge me at all. Many, many others did.

I am venting.

For me it seems so hard to believe that it has been 20 yrs already....

thanks for listening...

I am so sorry for your loss. Didn't want to read and run. x

oh i am so sorry to read your post.

20 years is no time when you love someone so dearly.

I hope you are ok x

You sound incredibly strong. You should feel immensely proud of yourself having raised two fine boys alone; I'll bet they're a real credit to you.
There's very little you can do to make your in-laws behave decently, really
But what about your own sisters? What's the story there?

Your dad is a gem, btw.

You bought a tear to my eye an unMN hug xxxxxxx so sorry for your loss

I am so sorry for you loss

Your dad is a diamond, the rest a bit crapola, a big boo to them

20 years and you have raised your boys. I bet they are fine young men.

I'm so sorry you lost your partner so early. You are incredibly brave and strong.

Take care of yourself and hug your boys tightly

So sorry that you lost your spouse and your boys missed out in having their Dad around, it seems odd that your ILs haven't wanted to be involved in their DGS lives. Grief affects people in different ways I suppose.

Hi, we've moved this into Bereavement. Hope you find the support you need