Saw my nan in the hospice today

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Hi, I visited my nan today - she is in a hospice and hasn't got long left. She's not ill, although she is in a lot of pain from chronic arthritis. Just very frail and fading away. i took my 2 year old with me, and she was so happy to see him. She fell asleep a few minutes later and then woke up screaming in pain. they're still trying to sort out her pain relief properly, although apparently she's been sleeping since we left at 2.30pm, so hopefully it's sorted now. Cant stop crying.

I'm sorry cities that can't have been easy

Try and focus on the good. She has a lovely granddaughter who visits her nd and great grandson who brought her joy.

They will get her meds right

My dad spent his last months in a Hospice. Not cancer, dementia with COPD. They managed his illness and cared for him in a way a regular nursing home couldn't. They also made sure his passing was peaceful and gentle.

My DD was only a baby then and we took her to see him often. He couldn't speak but hs beautiful blue eyes shone when she was there. She has those eyes.

They will help her, and you will too. Be strong, and proud of her x

Thank you. She lives 3 hours away from me, so today will be the last day i see her. Had to drive past the church where my grandad is buried (and where nan will be). Could have done without that really.

My Dad and his siblings are all there with her every day, which I'm really glad about. Must be so hard for them though.

hi there. Sorry you are going through this. Hospices do amazing jobs, they really do. My mum's partner recently passed from cancer and I made the decision to let my two kids see him. His eyes lit up at the sight of them despite being weak and semi comatose and near the end of life. You could really see the joy. See someone you love slip away and in pain is just utterly heartbreaking. They will be able to sort the pain relief out, I am sure of that. I was also a long way away so am really sympathetic to your situation.

They will get her comfortable. It stands to reason that the kind of people who choose to work in Hospices must be pretty amazing. You have made a big effort to see her today considering the distance and the age of your child. It's rightly down to your dad and his siblings now. Sorry you are going through this

Thanks everyone. Have had a good cry and now watching Sex and the City reruns to try and distract myself. The hospice is really lovely. Very peaceful. Nan used to knit blankets for people staying there. She made one for me too I used it as a pram blanket when my son was a baby and now it's in the living room for when I want to snuggle up watching TV.

Anyway, will go now. Thanks again.