My Mum

[Mrsloverlovershabba]

I miss her so much, she was amazing but where does my loving Dad go from here?

I didn't want to pass by and not say anything, I'm so sorry for your loss, mum's are very special, take care look after yourself and your dad. Sending you love and thoughts.

Thank you chicydoo :-)

I'm so sorry for your loss. What you do is just be with your grief and put one foot in front of the other. Grief is like a tide; it comes in and out. Take as much time as you need.

Hey just wanted to mention about my dad. My mum died nearly 6 years ago, and I was consumed with worry for my dad. He didnt even know how to do washing, they had been together since they were 17 and so happy together. My sister lived with him for 6 months and I was basically there all the time too. I just didn't think he would survive it. I just wanted to give you some hope. My dad plays golf once a week with his friend, and is always out and about very social. I remember the first christmas after she died he went to his works christmas party on his own, and I was so sad for him, but now he does it fine. He goes to weddings by himself and has been known to take himself away for a weekend! He likes his own space now, my sister moved in with him a couple of years ago and they almost killed eachother! Little things I have noticed over the past few years such as he takes pride in their home, he whistles and sings alot, he laughs really hard, enjoys his grandchildren, and has a really happy life.

He is struggling again now, as he has recently lost his little grandson (my son) but has been a massive support and I thought it may bring up a lot of feelings about loosing mum, but I really dont think it has. He told me just before he died that he would not be able to live without her, and I feel so proud of him.

How is your dad on a day to day basis? xxxxx

Oh Twinkle, I am so sorry for all your loss. Thank you for taking the time out to reply when you have suffered so much.

It helped to read about your Dad carrying on and eventually being able to have a happy life.

I thought he was doing well but he seems very tearful and lonely at the moment (it has been approx 3 months). He knows it will take time but he just hates being at home by himself, when a year a go he would relish the peace and quiet! I think he just fundamentally misses her just being there. It is tiring for him to constantly keep busy. He doesn't have any hobbies but he still works. I'm not sure how he will develop a social life or anything really.

Oh Im so sorry hun, it really isnt easy atall. I especially am struggling right now as i really could do with her being here she would love the olympics and all the fuss of it. I have got choked up here and there a lot the last few days, it has got a little easier though, but i just cant think of never seeing her again and hearing her voice as this kills me bigtime to the point i cant breathe :-(

Hugs to you hun and thinking of you x

Just wanted to lend you support as my mother just lost her partner tonight after a long battle with cancer. I am also worried for my mum too and how she will go on, especially as her whole life has been about caring for him these last months.
If you want to talk, we can lean on each other x

Twinkle I am so sorry for your loss too x