Nine months on

[madasa]

Nine months on and I still miss my dad so much....I can't bear it

Hi there. So sorry to hear that. You'll find plenty of support here.

My DH lost his dad a year ago and it's been very hard. There are so many milestones to go through (first birthday, first Christmas without him etc) it's hard to stay on your feet isn't it? It's been so hard watching DH and his family go through it.

Not to mention all the times you want to speak to him about small things, but it will get easier to bear.

Do you also have anyone in your real life you can share this with too? Any siblings?
Is anyone supporting you?

x

Madasa, I am eight months on from losing my dad and still at times cannot believe he is gone. Sometimes I remembers and it hurts so suddenly, so acutely it actually takes my breath away.

Be gentle on yourself xx

Thank you for your replies
RIZZO I do have amazing support from my DP, he has been my rock. I have a sister too but I don't want to burden her as she misses dad so badly too.

I've had counselling with Cruse which helped a little. I guess that everything I feel is normal but god it hurts!

I'm sorry your DH has lost his dad, it must be hard for you to see him hurting. My DP misses my dad too as they had a very good relationship.

BehindLockNumberNine I'm sorry that you are going through this too. Your comment about it literally taking your breath away is exactly how I feel.

8-9 months is nothing though is it.... compared to a lifetime with our dads?

I have to go to work now and be grown up and responsible when all I want to do is curl up under the duvet and howl....hey ho.

Thanks both of you for your kind words....they really do help.

Take care x

That's good, having a supportive partner really helps. Maybe you would find with your sister, taking it in turns to lean on each other helps you both to feel a little stronger though?

It's good that you're managing to go to work ok and face daily life so well. I'm sure for you that the peaceful and happy times will slowly increase. Keep talking here because you will find people who understand x