Siblings

[york20]

Lost mum early April last year. One of my sister's 1st wedding anniversary was about 9 days after that. As a result, she didn't receive any cards. I did buy one. In fact i had taken our mum shopping to buy a card and purchase one myself at the same time. However, due to every thing else cards were never sent although sis knew mum had remembered as she found blank card in mum's belongings. I know this must have been horrible for her and her anniversary will always be tinged with sadness. However, she posted on Facebook that no one remembered her anniversary except our mum. This hurt as she knew mum only had card because i took her shopping to get it and I purchased one at the same time.
This year I made sure I sent a card. However, I am still feeling hurt as she is still expecting the rest of the family to send cards and compains to me when they don't. Yet, I didn't get anniversary cards from anyone this year and I can't actually remember her every sending me a card. So I too am missing mum's card. i didn't even receive a Happy Anniversary message.
Know we should be sticking together but i guess I just need some support myself.

It's early days yet, each little thing will feel very magnified, give yourself time, and forgive each other for not filling the gaps.

Sorry for your loss.

In regards to missing your mum's card, you could put out a card she had previously given to you... I was advised to do this (8 months ago today I lost my lovely little brother who was only 32) and we have all been digging out old birthday cards etc he sent us in the past.

My mum had several of the mothers day cards he had made her as a child out this year. And for my sons 2nd bday last week I put out the card he got from my brother last year.

It's still early days and desperately sad but I've found it slightly comforting so may be worth a try?

Maybe try talking to your sister and telling her you could do with some support too. She may not realise you do and be wrapped up in her own grief.

Good luck x