Father's Day

[madasa]

This is my first Father's Day without my precious dad.

I miss him so much and would give the world to have him coming for lunch today.

I will raise a glass to him to thank him for being the best dad I could ever have wished for.

Just wanted to send complete unmumsnetty hugs to everyone who is missing someone.

To everyone missing their dads/husband/partner etc., wishing you love and strength for today x

Hugs to you too Madasa. This is our second year without DH, last year was awful so I sympathise. This year I suggested we do something that he would have loved so we're going walking and having lunch at a pub we used to all enjoy.

I'm hoping that keeping busy will help the children not be so sad :)

13 years without my dear Dad, still missing you, would love just one more walk with you and your dog. I love you xx

Sorry, hugs and love to you today Medasa, I'm sure he's looking down on you. Xx

Hugs to all of you. It's the second Father's day since my dad died. I've been thinking about him loads lately.
Be kind to yourself, do something lovely to mark the day. Treasure the good memories.

Hugs to you all. This is my fourth Father's day since my Dad died. I don't usually find today as bad as his birthday, but this year I'm struggling a bit, probably not helped by the fact I just found out that the special dinner I have organised for my PIL at MIL's request was completely unnecessary as most of the family cannot even attend and PIL thinks Father's day is a bit silly. Sorry for the rant, I know most here are dealing with much much worse. But if you can't get it out on MN, where can you?

I wish you all some peaceful time today to think of treasured memories of the ones you have lost and to smile as you recall their funny sayings, their loving smiles and the way their hugs could make you forget all your troubles.

Oh Summer you rant away if you need to.

That was very kind of you to organise a special dinner ...I hope it goes ok.

I have only just managed to haul myself out of bed (am usually up by 8.00am at latest) DP and I are going for a walk. He misses his dad too. His dad has been gone just over four years.

My dad died on 28th October....on the fourth anniversary of his dad's death which was uncanny. They shared the same name and myself and my DP share the same name. I like to think they are somewhere sharing a pint :)

My dad died 6 weeks ago and I am finding today very hard. My DS is nearly 2 and part of me feels like I should be making today special for my DH but all I can think about is how much I miss my dad and how I wish I could just talk to him.

He was the best dad and grandad anyone could wish for and family was the most important thing in the world to him and his passing has left a massive hole. But today as the OP said I am trying to be positive and thank him for being him and will definitely raise a glass to him!

Hugs to ayone else missing anyone at all xxx

Thinking of you Katieash and sorry you have lost your dad too.

Raising a glass to all our lovely dads :)

My dad died just over a week ago. His funeral is next week. Today has been hard. :(

I m lucky enough to still have my dad, but lost my Grandad 5 weeks ago, so my family has struggled with today.
My thoughts are with you all... I'm sure your lovely dads are watching over you proudly from somewhere.

Kladdkaka I hope that you got through yesterday as best you could. Am so sorry that you have lost your dad, thinking of you x

Fairyfriend sorry for your loss too. I know my 21 year old daughter struggles with the loss of her grandad as he was very special to her

We went for a long walk along the river yesterday which helped. I noticed my DP hadn't put his father's day card up from his daughter. He said he didn't want to put it up as he thought it would hurt me even more. So thoughtful....but I put it up anyway, he is a dad and that's important.

Hoping everybody got through yesterday as well as they could xx

So sorry for everyone's losses. Kladdkaka, these weeks must be extremely difficult for you. I hope you made it through yesterday and are bearing up.

Madasa your DP sounds so sweet. We went for a long walk too, and though I had a little breakdown in the car on the way there, I felt much better by the end. My Dad loved hiking and used to drive us mad as kids for continually stopping to look at the view. I think I drove DH mad yesterday by doing exactly the same :)

Summer I'm glad you enjoyed your walk too. There's just something about being outside that seems to lift the spirits a little.

Yes my DP is sweet, he is struggling too as he adored my dad but he has been my rock :)

We had a slightly different situation here. Dd died last October and it was dh's first Father's day as a bereaved Dad. I normally get the boys to sign a card from all of them and if things had been the way they should we would have signed dd's name too but dh finds it hard to talk about her and I didn't want to upset him, so I got the boys to sign their card and then later gave him a card from me and dd. And we all went our for a nice walk and meal later.

So sorry for all who are missing their Dads. I lost my lovely Dad 10 years ago and the first couple of Father's Days were hard. Now I can look back on my lovely memories of him and it doesn't hurt so much.

Chipmonkey so sorry for the loss of your Dd.....I cannot begin to imagine how you must feel.
Love and hugs to you and your Dh and of course your boys x

My lovely Dad died 3 weeks ago today. He was fab: the loveliest and most gentle and courageous of men. He was my hero and my role model.

I just feel numb, now that the relief that his suffering wasn't prolonged is fading. I want to fight back past the recent images I have of him, to the man who was whole and strong and at the centre of my world.

I can't quite believe that he won't be here ever again, that I'll want to tell him something and he won't be there; that my life will move on but he'll never know what's happening in it. It just feels so odd.

Love you, Dad; then, now and always.

Hi truly
I'm so sorry that you have lost your lovely dad.
Like you my dad was my absolute hero. He's been gone 8 long months and I still think 'I'll have to tell dad that'
I keep a photo of him on my mantelpiece...in it he is smiling, happy and well. It helps me get past the final images I have.
Take care x

truly, my Dad was a plant expert ( PhD etc) and his knowedge of garden plants was encyclopaedic. So even now, 10 years on, I still almost ring him to ask his advice on the garden and then realise I can't.

But...... the funny thing was, last weekend I was in the garden with ds4 who is just four and never met my Dad. We were walking around and ds4 said "There's a week. Get rid of it. Oh, there's another weed, get rid of it" several times! Dh and I are not great gardeners so I was wondering who had been coaching him in weeds! So I asked "Who was telling you about weeds?"
He said "Grandad"
I said "But Grandad's away" thinking he meant dh's Dad.
He said "No, the grandad with Nana MySurname"
I said "The far away Nana or the Near Nana" thinking he had got the names mixed up. My Mum lives much further away than dh's
He said "The far away Nana. That Grandad. But he's a ghost, you know"

He comes out with odd little things like that from time to time. He had also told me before that that Grandad MySurname said ds4 "belonged on earth"

It does give me hope.