my dad died tonight :(

[SNOWBall4girlz]

Its too late to phone any one to talk to.

The only night I thought my dh would have stayed sober as I was with my niece while my mum and sister were sat by dad's bedside when he passed, but no red wine won and I sent him to bed when I just came home, as I am so upset and I am now here on my own. Life will not stop the kids still need to get up and go to school, have just put a wash on emptied lunch boxes and decided not to have a drink as i have gone dizzy three times tonight.
I could not stay with my my niece and sister as they were all smoking and I cannot breath (asthma).
They withdrew all support on friday and he hung on til today he became very ill after a bad water infection dehydration in the care home he also had bad dementia. He is at peace now but feel so ? helpless coukd we have done more I am a little lost to say the least.

So very sorry to read this and thinking of you and sending a hug.

i dont know if any one knows me from previous stuff but i have been having problems with my mum and eldest dd1 very long story :(
My eldest lives with my mum full time and is over 18.
Just found out that she my mum refuses to put the differences aside just for one day and says she will not let me get in the funeral car with my family.
Tried to stop the tribunal but got it put on hold in stead so she did not get any thing through the post that would upset her. The same day ...the weds after my dad died on the monday found out that she had been getting her self a solicitor so much for greiving.
(my mum and dad have been seperated for over 25 yrs btw and were still married cos she would not divorce him).
Arent families great x :(

oh snowball so sorry to hear you have all this going on on top of losing your dad. That is terrible about the funeral car, the only thing I can suggest is having a second funeral car, but that may cause problems with family members not knowing what car to go in, for the 'best' .

people say that 'people grieve in different way's but her behavior seems very cold hearted. I don't know what to say to help. my mum and dad were separated for many years before he died, but she is totally devastated, so its a different situation to yours. I am so sorry you have all this to deal with :(

So sorry. It's nearly a year since my dad died (very suddenly). I remember the first few awful days, just a fog of bewilderment and misery. It does get easier, slowly but steadily. Your dad is still in your heart, and what was him is now a part of the universal dance of the atoms, never really and entirely gone.

Be kind to yourself.