Can anyone advise me on how to acknowledge the anniversary of a bereavement?

[occasionalposter]

Hello,

I was hoping for some advice to help me with how to approach the first anniversary of a bereavement.

A friend of my DD died almost a year ago after a long illness. I didn't know the friend's mother well before the illness, but we visited often during that time. The friend's mother is finding things very difficult, especially in talking to people who still have their teenage daughter (such as myself).

I don't want her to think that we have forgotten about her daughter or her family, but neither do I wish to intrude myself in anyway that will cause her further distress. I can't call her because she doesn't answer the phone (although her husband would), but I feel texting is somehow insufficient.

Can anyone suggest how I can best approach this anniversary?

Many thanks for reading.

Although she may not feel up to talking to you, perhaps she would appreciate a letter or card, so she knows that her lovely DD is still remembered fondly by others?

You (or your DD) could send her some photos and share some stories.

I think its really important that you mark the day and that the mum knows you have done so. Perhaps you could drop her a line in a nice card to tell her what you intend to do, ie: talk about her girl as a family, reminisce, gather with other friends etc. You could also make it clear that you will be thinking of her and offer your support on the day or whenever she wants it.

I promise you, she will appreciate it.

You sound like a good friend.

Thank you, I will send her a card.

I appreciate you both taking the time to help me.