could anyone help?

[lifestuff]

I was wondering if someone could help my grandad passed away today and i never got the chance to say goodbye he sufferd with dementia for some years and iv seen how bad he got! His funeral is on thursday and its the day i turn 23! My head is all over the place and I can't think off anything to write to be read out at his funeral so does any1 no any nice poems or words? My kids never got the chance to see what an amazing grandad he was befor he became ill thankyou x

So sorry for your loss lifestuff :( it's horrible to lose a loved one and it's even more horrible to lose them before they have gone as demetia robs you of the person you have always known.

It's bad timing for Grandads funeral to be held on your birthday, but could you try to think of it as sharing one last thing with him? make it positive if you can. I always think of funerals as a celebration of the deceased life rather than the action of saying goodbye.

Somewhere here, I have a lovely poem that my Ds read out for my Dads funeral mass. I heard it at one of my best friends Mums funeral and got a copy of it as it's just lovely. I will try to find it for you.

Take care of yourself.x

I am sorry for your loss. How about the sort of classic one?

Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft star-shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.

Epitaph on a Friend

An honest man here lies at rest,
The friend of man, the friend of truth,
The friend of age, and guide of youth:
Few hearts like his, with virtue warm'd,
Few heads with knowledge so inform'd;
If there's another world, he lives in bliss;
If there is none, he made the best of this.

Robert Burns

Thankyou so much! Xx

Thankyou so much! Xx

This one is nice too

Where do they go to?
Where do they go to, the people who leave?
Are they around us, in the cool evening breeze?
Do they still hear us, and watch us each day?
I'd like you to think of them with us that way.

Where do they go to, when no longer here?
I think that they stay with us, calming our fear
Loving us always, holding our hands
Walking beside us, on grass or on sand.

Where do they go to, well it's my belief
They watch us and help us to cope with our grief
They comfort and stay with us, through each of our days
Guiding us always through life's mortal maze.

KevF - 21st August 2007

I've just found it.

When God saw you getting tired

When God saw you getting tired
And a cure was not to be
He put his arms around you
And whispered come to me
He didn't like what you went through
And he gave you rest
His garden must be beautiful
He only takes the best
And when we saw you sleeping
So peaceful and free from pain
We wouldn't wish you back
To suffer that again
Today we say goodbye
And as you take your final rest
That garden must be beautiful
Because you are one of the best.

Anonymous

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Honestly that is so lovely and every word is so true x

Honestly that is so lovely and every word is so true x

Take good care of yourself.x

Sorry for your loss. Try to think of something from your childhood - that is really personal. Everyone told stories about my dad and his jokes/sense of humour. Same with mum. There were some poems/readings but these were ones the ment something to her.

Sorry for your loss, I lost my grandad just 2 weeks ago so I feel your pain. I can't do links as I'm on my phone, but if you google 'bereavement poems' there's some fantastic stuff out there.
My kids are young too, and didn't get to know my Grandad as well as I'd have liked, but we have a picture of him up and I've told them he's watching over them from heaven. I know that's no good unless you are religious, but it's helped our family. I'm sure you'll find a way of explaining it that suits you.
Take care of yourself, and take time to grieve.
May your lovely grandad rest in peace.