What would be appropriate?

[Mama1980]

Hi I am hoping I am posting this in the right place if not I'm sorry but I would really appreciate some suggestions. I'll keep this as brief as possible. I was a strangled from my biological grandmother for many years, she was awful and my biological father has nothing to do with us still. About 4 years ago she came to see me and apologised anyway we rebuilt our relationship, I grew to love her we shared many confidences and she told me about her first son who was born in 1942 she always blamed herself as one night during the blitz she ignored her father advice to shelter under the stairs and instead went with her son into the Anderson shelter- her son was killed and she was injured when a bomb landed that night.
She had a breakdown and never even knew what happened to her sons body these things weren't discussed then. Anyway she never forgave herself I managed to find out where her son is buried and they said a memorial could be placed as her parents apparently bought a substantial plot, sadly my nan died last year peacefully holding my hand but I know she desperately wanted to make amends and give her son the memorial he deserved she spoke of this many times but unfortunately didn't say what she wanted. I want to carrie out her wishes but I don't know what would be appropriate? I'm so terribly sorry if this is at all insensitive but I don't know what to write on a stone or a cross and was hoping anyone could offer any thoughts.

Strangled =estranged sorry predictive text on iPad

Such a sad story. I'm so sorry as I've no advice but wanted to say how lovely you're being. Hopefully someone will be along soon to give you some advice.

That is a sad story, your poor grandmother Im sure that effected her throughout her life. I think fufilling her wishes is a wonderful thing to do to honour her and the short life of her son, your uncle.

Something simple Im sure would be good, what are your initial thoughts?

Did he have a name? I guess his name and birth date and death date and a few words of acknowledgement.

Im sure what ever you choose will be fine. And I really think its such a wonderful thing you are doing.

A lovely thing to do, something simple from what she told you, Never forgotten, Always loved.

Thank for replying I was thinking his name dates, and then a line of something? How about sleep sweet baby boy? Do you think a gravestone is suitable for a baby? Or should I look for a angel or a cross? Money really no object I'm paying out of the money my grandmother left me. thanks again

I think a grave stone is appropriate, if we had buried our little baby girl she would have had a grave stone. If you go to the stone masons they usually jave samples you can look at.

If there is already a stone St the plot you can add to it. Or a friend of mind whose little boy was sadly stillborn had a small plaque added at the base of her grandparents gravestone where they interred his ashes. She has asked to be buried there when the time comes too.

I think (from what I remember) the plaque has his name; "born sleeping" and the date, and a bible verse "the Lord gives and the Lord takes away; blessed be the name of the Lord" but they are serious Christians and that might not be appropriate for your baby uncle.

What a fantastic granddaughter you have been doing this for your Nana. She's so proud if you, I'm sure!

Thank you very much for replying. There is no stone there at all at the moment it unmarked but as I say quite a large plot. My grandmother was quite Christian so I might ask a vicar? If there is something traditional or appropriate. I didn't know you could go choose in that way so I might just go and speak to someone about stone size shape etc. thanks agein for your help