Physical sypmtoms of grief

[mandmsmummy]

Hi all
Just wondered if people have any of these.
My mum died 13 years ago when I was 23, my dad died in Nov quiet unexpectedly and while I've been up and down I think I've hit a wall now. Its reminded me of all the pain I had when mum died. I always find it hard to accept that these symptoms are grief.
I feel aches and pains, headaches, sicky, breathless, all of which make me feel exhausted.
Just wondered if we could start a conversation about the physical symptoms?
XX

Sorry for your loss mand, grieft has many different forms and maybe the physical symptoms you are experiencing are down to the anxiety and stress you are under. I say this because I suffered badly from anxiety when my dd was born and had many of the physical symptoms you describe, I was convinced I was sick and didn't believe these things were stress related. Sorry I can't be much help

I am so sorry for your loss. I have experienced extreme tiredness, headaches and eczema. Grief really takes it out of you physically and emotionally. Please try to look after yourself and eat as well as you can even if you don't feel like it.

Hi Scoose
I think you're right. I too suffered with anxiety (health anxiety) constantly worried something was wrong with me or the kids. I truly believe this is down to losing Mum suddenly and it scared me. Now losing Dad has opened those wounds. Anxiety is knackering and while I know deep down this is all down to it, I find it reassuring to talk to others like you. Ive done the CBT etc so I have a good understanding of it all but have found it hard this time to deal with it. Thanks for replying.
XX

Thanks battleship, I tend to eat too much comfort eating I suppose. Put on a small amount of weight so now trying to be healthy as being overweight doesnt help. XX

That's ok mand I can offer a sympathetic ear if you need to talk anxiety is exhausting but although it's a cliche it does get easier in time

I am so sorry for your losses - both of your mother and the more recent death of your father.

I lost my father and my DH within 9 months of each other. The physical symptoms have been quite marked. I had rather dramatic hair loss after my father dying (I was also really stressed at the time as DH had just been diagnosed with cancer). Some of it could have been attributed to hormonal changes after having a baby (DD2 was 4 months old when DF died), but given just how much hair I lost I know it was down to the stress around grieving. Thankfully it's all come back now.

Then, in the last few weeks of his life and following DH's death, I suffered terribly with roscea. My skin has been so bad. I am now on a daily antibiotic which has worked. But if for any reason I don't take them for a few days, it comes back with a vengeance. It's a year on now and I wish it would go away.

Both of those things are over and above the normal panic attacks, taking deep breaths and wondering if my chest is going to explode type things. Oh and also crap sleep (compounded by having two small children). It's pretty shit quite frankly

Thanks Scoose.
Rindercella, Sounds like you have a rough time too. So sorry to hear all of that, lifes tough eh? Thanks for all your words, its comforting to know others understand. xx