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Parkdice · 18/04/2012 16:59

Hi, my name is Jo. Tragically we lost our baby, Sam, last September. I was full term and was in labour for 27hours before he was found to have died. The labour ward was very busy. His heartbeat was present at 8pm, 7 hours later his heartbeat was gone. During this time I repeatedly reported to my midwife that I couldn't feel him moving and that I thought my membranes had ruptured. Nothing was done in this time to monitor me or reassess me and I was never put on a CTG monitor, as I should have been, which might have shown signs of fetal distress and enabled a caesarian which could have saved his life. My midwife "can't recall" many of the conversations of me reporting concerns and made no documentation of them. A note on the whiteboard stating "reduced fetal movements" was wiped off and my midwife claims she was unaware of it. I believe there were massive failings in the care I received.
The post mortem revealed he was otherwise entirely healthy but that he died due to cord entanglement and an infection probably acquired through ruptured membranes. We appealed to the coroner to undertake an inquest but she was unable to do this due to the legal definition that a baby needs to have taken a breath to be considered a human being in their own right. Sam never took a breath. The coroner does not apportion blame but conducts a thorough and unbiased investigation making recommendations for improvements in care. We feel this legal definition is wrong and that it would seem logical for a baby to be considered a human being in their own right after the legal age of abortion, which is 25 weeks gestation. We are campaigning to change the law as we believe coroner?s inquests, where applicable, could help make improvements in healthcare to tackle the terrible level of stillbirths we have in this country.
An independent investigation has not happened into the death of our baby and we are left trying to tackle this problem ourselves.

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MiaAlexandrasmummy · 19/04/2012 19:17

Hello there Jo, I am so sorry about your little Sam. This is such a sad traumatic story.

From what I have read on MN, there are others who have had similar terrible experiences. I'm sure that there would be a lot of women on MN willing to support this campaign. Could you provide a few more ideas as to what you need from us? i.e Tell us to "Like" a Facebook page, join a website, sign a standard letter to send to an MP.

Also, if you haven't already you might like to start a thread in miscarriage / pregnancy loss to gain more notice.

Finally, there is another thread in bereavement called Mothers Instinct which has recently started to campaign for better communications between parents and medics. You might find it useful to go there, given your comments about the standard of care you received, and your concerns.

You can also put in a formal complaint about the hospital through the PALS service, and they will be obliged to investigate. If you are not satisfied with the results, you can escalate it regionally, and finally end up at the Omsbudman.

chipmonkey · 20/04/2012 17:20

Parkdice, so sorry that you lost your beautiful Sam. I lost my baby daughter to SIDS last October so know the pain of losing a baby. Do you have a petition we could sign?
Also, if you want to join us on our Bereaved Mums thread here you are more than welcome.

maytheoddsbeeverinyourfavour · 20/04/2012 17:31

Im so terribly sorry for your loss, and that you and baby Sam were so badly let down

I would be happy to support your campaign in any way possible if you give some details on what you would like us to do?

I was in a similar situation, it was only the prompt action of a midwife that saved my baby, I never ever forget how lucky I am or the people who weren't so lucky. And while I know I was lucky, good care should not be about luck it should be standard.

To lose a child in any circumstance must be beyond devastating but to know it could have been prevented must bring its own layer of pain. I am so truly sorry this happened to you, and I admire you for bringing this to people's attention

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