We've had a run of bad luck lately, so things are a bit het up as it is. Got a baby due in under 4 weeks. My husbands nan had been ill with various things for the past few months, fractured hip/heart attack/chest infections. She was in hosptital for ages and last week was moved to a nursing home.
Anyway yesterday in the early hours of the morning, her body couldn't take any more and she passed away. She was 90. Although it wasn't entirely unexpected, it is still very very sad.
This is the first death my husband has had to deal with. He was too young and kept too sheltered from his 2 grandfathers' deaths. I have lost my father and other members of my family so I know how much he is hurting.
He wasn't that close to his nan. He probably only saw her twice in the past year. He saw more of her when he was younger when his mum used to take him round there at the weekends. I think he is putting himself through the 'I should have seen her more' scenario at the moment.
He is very very angry this morning and has shouted at me and the children and said some horrid things to us. He won't let me near him. I just want to put my arms around him and tell him that I understand his pain and want to help him, but he physically pushes me away. I have told him that I'm here for him and have sent him a text message telling him. He has gone to work this morning. I've been up all night being sick and he had a lot of cross words for me when I still had my head down the toilet at 8.30 and unable to do the school run.
I spent all yesterday with him at his mums rallying round them trying to help where I could.
I am at a loss as to how to help him. He got really cross when I asked if he wanted me to order any flowers for the funeral.
I daren't say anything to him now. I am scared of saying the wrong thing to him.