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my dog died today

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sweetmonkey · 02/02/2006 16:11

title says it all really.

some of you on here have helped me enormously in the last year or so. i dont have children but came on here for help when my alcoholic mother got out of control and attacked me.

in august we found out my dog had cancer and he had to have his testicles removed

back in nov my partner of 2 years dumped me, home life was crap and i saw no reason to live.

my dog, drifter, has always been my best friend. he has been through so much with me. growing up, boyfriends, parents divorcing, heartache, friendship, everything.

i know some people will say he was only a dog but he really was my best friend.

we found out in dec the cancer had returned but was told he would prob have about 6 months left with the right tablets.

i woke up this morn and he wasnt really moving alot. he wennt out in the garden and came back in and just layed there.i put my hand under his head and he went into a deep sleep.

i went to work but was worried so left work early and came home, he was still laying where ihad left him.

i phoned my dad who told me to phone the vets about getting him down there. but we couldnt move him. my dad came home and my bro did too and he was just laying there. we asked the vet to come out, however on her way over he looked at us all and we all kissed him and he just relaxed completely and passed away.

i had about an hour before my dad and bro got home and just layed there talking to him.he was my special boy. my best friend. i spoke to him about everything.and now im just alone again

i cant beleive its happened so quickly.

sorry for this being so long

just feel empty

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brimfull · 02/02/2006 16:14

am so sorry for you,sounds llike he had a very peaceful death and a great life.

rummum · 02/02/2006 16:15

hi sweetmonkey...
I'm so sorry your dog died... It did sound very peaceful though.
Sound's like you went through a lot together..

Hugs

MrsMills · 02/02/2006 16:16

Sweetmonkey, so sorry for your loss . Although I've never had a dog, I understand you must still grieve for him and there will be some tough times ahead. But you will have fond memories and you can always look back at those times.

Sorry, I don't know what else to say, your post sounded so sad, but thinking of you.

Marne · 02/02/2006 16:17

Poor you sweetmonkey, sending you lots of hugs!

Dont listen to people that say he was just a dog, dogs are alot more loyal than people and they listen to all your problems. I think it's just as hard as loosing a friend or family member.

Take it easy!

golds · 02/02/2006 16:18

thats heartbreaking, I got a puppy 6 months ago and can't possibly imagine her not being around, she makes our house a home. I am really sorry for your loss like ggirl said she sounds as if she had a good life

JenumGeranium · 02/02/2006 16:18

Oh you poor thing - what a sad time for you.

Some people will say, he was only a dog, but he was your friend and companion and losing that is a sad thing.

I remember when we had to have our cat of 18 years put down. The night before she went to the vets she slept on the bottom of my bed, which she never did before and when I went to bed I said Goodbye instead of Goodnight .

At least he didnt suffer and he wasnt alone when he went.

Hugs to you

Cadbury · 02/02/2006 16:19

I'm really touched by hearing about the special relationship you had with your dog. I'm really sorry he has died. He won't be in any more pain now. I hope you can find some comfort and peace.

Bella23 · 02/02/2006 16:26

So sorry to hear about Drifter. I understand when a pet is everything to a person. My 2 cats are very special to me and would feel the same if anything happened to them.
You just have to remember that he had a really good life with you and that he died with the person he loved the most.

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sweetmonkey · 02/02/2006 16:40

thanks for your messages, just needed to put it all down somwhere.trying to concentrate on typing stops me crying

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Meanoldmummy · 02/02/2006 17:08

Oh how awful for you, I'm so sorry to hear this. You sound as though you had been through enough already. My sympathy.

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Wordsmith · 02/02/2006 17:25

Sweetmonkey, he wasn't only a dog, he was your dog.

When my cat was dying a few years ago I spent a couple of hours before what I knew would be the last vet's appointment, on my own with Sam just holding him and cuddling him and giving him my love. I'm so glad I did - he was such a friendly cat and loved being cuddled, but had missed out a bit since DS1's arrival a year or so beforehand.

You will treasure those last few moments with your lovely lovely boy.

My brother's dog dies a couple of weeks ago. he's a Buddhist (my brother, not the dog) and when I phoned to sympathise he said he couldn't be sad because then his grief would weigh on Matty in his new life, and hinder him from rebirth. It's not necessarily what I believe but it really helped my bro.

kitegirl · 02/02/2006 17:26

oh sweetmonkey, what a sad and touching post, thank you for sharing with us those precious last moments you had with Drifter. So good that you got to be with him when he left. I know you must be missing him, your best friend. He is in doggie heaven right now, watching over you and running around with Hero (my old Newfoundland who is also in doggie heaven) chasing squirrels. {{{{{hugs}}}}}

Chloe55 · 02/02/2006 18:12

What a sad day for you. I know it doesn't help really but thankfully Drifter was in familiar surroundings and watched over by those who loved him when he passed away. It seems almost lie he waited for you to come home. Dogs are part of the family and I know what it is like to lose one.

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sweetmonkey · 02/02/2006 18:54

thanks for all yr kind words

feel very

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JanH · 02/02/2006 18:58

sweetmonkey, I am so sad for you. His death sounds like a gentle and lovely one for him but of course you feel bereft. So sorry.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 02/02/2006 18:58

Oh how awful for you sweetmonkey

Drifter sounds like a lovely dog. I hope its a consolation that you made it home to be with him when he passed.

Socci · 02/02/2006 19:00

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sweetmonkey · 03/02/2006 06:28

managed to get some sleep but have been awake since 5.30. my eyes are so swollen too.just miss my boy so much.

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diddle · 03/02/2006 12:06

sweetmonkey - i can't imagine how sad you are feeling, but just thinking about it has reduced me to tears, i'd be gutted if my little Basil ever left us, he's part of the family and i know your dog was too. Take time out to remember him, and grieve for your loss, losing a much loved pet is not in any way easy.

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sweetmonkey · 03/02/2006 20:04

well am so glad work is over for the week. id arranged to have my dogs paw tattooed on my wrist in a couple of weeks for my birthday, had a couple of days booked off and was gonna take him out places and then go on the fri to get my tattoo done, ob not gonna happen now so phoned the people up at lunch and i have just got back from the tattoo place.its lovely, just what i wanted and although it sounds silly i feel like hes with me always now.

i photocopied his paw last week when i thought about getting it done and im so glad i did now, what a diff a week makes.

gonna stay in this weekend and grieve for my best friend.
x

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