How can I help him

[Sazbrilla]

My partner found out a few hours ago that one of his friends passed away. Now he is withdrawing from everything, pushing me away and locking me out. I'm trying to be supportive and be there for him but he is making it impossible. He won't eat. Even though he hasn't eaten all day. I really want to help him but I don't know how.

Sorry for his/your loss.

It's only been a few hours, give him some space and some time. Make yourself available to talk and he will talk if he needs to.

I'm trying mer but he has now started taking it out on me. Ive tried doing the same as I did last year when another friend passed away but I'm in the wrong for it. I leave him some I'm in the wrong I talk I'm also in the wrong.

How have things been today?
Grief either brings you closer or pushes you apart. Not sure what to advise but hope things are better.

Sazbrilla, maybe ask him "I want to be helpful and supportive, what would you like me to do?"

He has had a terrible shock and as it happened last year also, he must be thinking "why is this happening again?"

I do hope though that he isn't pushing you away as you sound very caring.

We broke up the night before last. He pushed me away that much but sorted it out last night. He was the one who ended it. I've just decided to let him get on with it as when I try to be there and help him I'm in the wrong and we argue so not saying anything. Watching what I say to him with the attitude that if he wants my help he will ask. It's the only thing I can think to do. But then he accuses me of not caring do catch 22 situation.