Happy birthday Mum….....wherever you are

[Redtartanlass]

I just want to wish a Happy Birthday to my beautiful, strong and brave mum who died 11 years ago. I just want to say, I hope you can see your wonderful grandkids who never got to meet you and laugh with you and be swathed in your amazing presence.
I just hope soooo much that you know that I graduated a few months after you died. I wish you can see what a success my wee brother and I have made of our lives because of you and the lessons you taught us and the love you gave us.
I know you were worried about leaving me, and I?ll never forget how just one week before you died, you literally pulled yourself out of your death bed to give me some cough medicine because I was coughing in my bed!!
I wish at times like this that I had religion, so that I could believe you are near.
I love you mum and I miss you.
Happy Birthday.

Oh Redtartanlass. Your Mum is around you I'm sure. And very proud of you and your brother.

Hugs.

Oh thanks budababe, don't know why I posted realy.

I just didn't want the day to pass unmarked. DP has gone to bed (on baby patrol tonight), my wee brother is away with work and I'm not the sort of person to phone a friend and say "Hey guess what? It's my mums birthday, and I'm feeling shit"

What a lovely post Redtartanlass. I'm sorry you're feeling sad. I wish my mother had lived to see my children, too.
x

mrs darcy, you'd think after 11 years you'd stop crying, but having a real bad day today.

I feel for you hun. Well done for "marking" the day.

We have planned Rebecca's christening for what would have been my mums 50th Birthday (12th Feb) so expect a similar post from me. (18 months since she died now, and you are right, it is still raw to the bone)

Thanks j&Bumpmum, 18months isn't long sweetie, you must be hurting like mad.

It's been 10 years since my mother died and I still miss her terribly, especially since becoming a mother myself. There are so many things I never got to talk to her about. I suppose it would be much sadder if she was forgotten and not missed.

That's a lovely idea for your daughter's christening, J&RM. At my daughter's christening a few months ago we included prayers for my mother.

Its not great. It was exactly 2 weeks after Jessica was born.

It does hurt, and I will admit to crying uncontrollably about 3/4 times a month, but i have to keep going for my girls. They need me, as does my Dad. She was only 48 and it was sudden and not at all expected.

We cope the best we can.

Thinking of you at this time, please try and rest xxx

Thanks J&Rmum - feel better today after a good sleep! Think that's a wonderful idea about the christening.

I still very occasionally wake up in the middle of the night crying!!!

MrsDarcy, I know what you mean. I've got laods of questions, just simple things like, how mcuh did I weigh when I was born.

I'm glad you're feeling better rtl. During my last pregnancy I was asked a few times how prem I was and I don't know, and Dad can't remember. And I bet my children look resemble various relatives on Mum's side who Id love to hear about.

Just wanted to say redtartanlass that it was beautiful what you wrote for your mum,i know what you mean you mean about wishing you had religion i feel the same about losing my mum 9yrs ago,but i do beleive my mum is near because she loved me so much why would she leave me even in death and i m sure it is the same for your mum too

Happy Birthday Mum. Think my original post says it all.

I lost my mum 5 days ago to cancer, her funeral has not yet taken place. I have found it hard to cry, to feel anything other than numbness but what you wrote here says so much of what I feel and tears are closer now than they were before I read your message to your mum.
I have a 7 month old and it devastates me that she will not be here when she grows up, but she will scattered in the winds on Glastonbury Tor so I know she will be watching and guiding, like your mum.
You sound like a strong woman.

Aother year mum, still misssing you! Happy Birthday.

So so sorry, Pavlovthecat, that I missed your post last year, and thank you for taking the time to post when your grief was still so raw. I still miss mine, not every day, maybe not even every week now, but after 13 years, Christmas and today makes me so so so so sad.

sorry to hear about your mum Pavlovthecat.
RedtartanLass - I am not religious in the slightest, but I really do believe that our lost loved ones can see us and know what we are up too! It really helps me to think like that. I lost my Dad 11 years ago, this March. It was his birthday last week and funnily enough it is my nephew's on the same day, although my nephew is nine so he never got to meet his Grandad. I still miss him and cry sometimes. I miss him when we are decorating, coz i think 'Dad would have been round helping' lol.

I lost my mum in 3 months ago when my ds was 1 month old. I realise that it doesn't get easier with time, you just get used to it a little bit more each day.
xxx

so sorry for your loss sophus (and everyone else on here). My Father died when DD2 was eight weeks old, he had alzheimers so never even really knew i was pregnant, he never saw DD as he was too far gone and we lost him to cancer.

I am gutted to the core i never took the chance and took DD to see him, i was (i know now) crippled by PND and was just sooo overprotective of DD. Was convinced if i took her near a hospital she would get MRSA or soemthing - stupid. It is my biggest regret of my life.

My father would have been so happy to know i had a second child, it breaks my heart every time dd does something new i can just imagine him watching her getting choked up the way he did with DD1 and doing that little laugh he would do - oh god, i miss him so much

Redtartanlass - I am raising my glass in Bolton, Lancashire to your mum - who sounds amazing! I am very lucky - I still have my mum and dad, both in their 70's. Bereavement is awful no matter what age the person you love dies.

I have lost two of my four sons but I dread the day that I lose my mum and dad. They are my backbone, my heart and my everything. That made me sound trivial when I just told my story in a sentence but I didnt mean it to.

Happy birthday reds.... mum - I dont know you personally - but I honor you as a smashing mum xxx

Hugs shabster

sending hugs to all ,but i know jayden is there when i get so down he boots me back he knowsxx

Your OP was lovely, Redtartanlass.

Sorry for your loss.

It would have been my Grans birthday today too. She died March 2007.

Here's to all the wonderful Mums, past and present and wherever they are (clink) - and that includes all of us on Mumsnet... We are irreplaceable and unique and we each carry our love on to the next generation as best we can x

Cheers mum! Happy birthday to you and thanks to all the lovely posters from last year.

Everyone's in bed and I'm sitting here sobbing about what you missed this year. Ds1 graduated, you would have been so proud he was 9 when you died. Ds2 started school and dd started nursery, sadly you never got to meet them but I tell them about you.
Love you and will always love you.
Happy birthday.

Happy Birthday Mum, funny to think if you'd been alive you'd be picking up your bus pass today