I shouldn#t feel so sad should I?

[LadyofLego]

Namechanging as this will part of my RL for the next while and posting under my usual name would out me.

So sad. My 'step grandad' for ease of explaining (mum's partner's father) passed awaythis pm.

He had been dx'd June last year but hadn't really been 'ill'

He was a bit poorly this week. I got a call today to say he had passed.

I feel ridiculously bereft considering we weren't blood relatives.

The last time I saw him (about 6/7 weeks ago) he said to me 'Bye now, next time I see you I'll be all better'

I feel stupid for feeling so sad. But he was just such a great man. A charater, with a twinkle in his eye.

I will miss him

You loved him, he loved you. He was your Grandad, of course you will miss and mourn him. Give yourself a break. x

You feel what you feel no rights and no wrongs. He touched your spirit and that is all that matters.

Oh Lady I know what you mean, Some one close but in no way related passed away last year & I was really low and stupidly sad for a good few weeks.

Have a good cry and remember everything that makes you smile about him and then cry some more

Do you know when the funeral will be?

I meant to add sorry for your family's loss x

Thank you all.

No idea as yet when the funeral will be. Shine, I had a very good cry locked myself in my bedroom with a large glass of wine which did help

Thanks all

Just needed to get it out a bit. xx

Of course you don't know yet, I mis-read and asked a twatish question

It's normal for any one to feel really affected when such a loss happens and you might feel low for a good few days, just let it out.

Be thankful he was in your life.

And be thankful he didn't suffer.....(long term illness).

We all pass on but carry the beautiful memories with you.

And that doesn't mean you cannot mourn him and "get over it" any time soon!

We all experience sadness and regret individually
Give yourself some time,have wee cry

I am sorry to hear of your loss.
Please don't be so hard on yourself. My FIL is dying, has 2 weeks at the most, and I am starting to grieve for him already and I am very tearful and "fragile" at the moment, but I accept that feeling like this is perfectly normal; I'm also sad for my children losing their grandad.

I've lost too many loved ones in the last 4 years, starting with my Dad, then last year my only Uncle (Dad's brother died). Now I am going to lost my FIL.I do sometimes feel very low and bereft.

You loved him, he died. Of course you are sad and upset. There are no rules with grief. Just because he wasn't a blood relative doesn't mean you don't have a connection with him. My DN has probably just as close a relationship with dsis's dh's Mum even though she's not technically her granny. And she told dsis that she regards my DN as a grandchild. It's nice for DN as she has 3 grannies!

The Highland writer, Neil Gunn said "its not the size of knowing that matters I think, its the kind of knowing. If when you know a thing it warms your heart then it's a friendly knowing and worth the having. In any case, you remember it and it stays with you the rest of your days."
I always think of this when I question, why someone or something touches me more than convention would dictate.
You had a connection with this person and you grieve for the loss, kindest thoughts to you, be good to yourself
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