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Feel so lost...

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LiamsMummyJaz · 05/02/2012 23:03

My dearly loved grandad passed away yesterday. It was so sudden it shocked us all. He was always such a healthy man. Our family is a close a family you could get. My parents and grandparents both live less than a 2 minute walk away, and we see each other everyday. I just don't know how I'm going to keep strong! I break down constantly. I only need to think of him. I always thought he would be there. I never thought of a day he wouldn't. My mum and nan are being so strong and I feel like I should be comforting them, but I can't because I would just break down and cry! What makes things worse is that my baby boy is 13 weeks old today and I need to be strong for him too. My grandad will never see my son grow up. He was so proud. I don't even have a picture of them together.

I'm sorry for offloading..

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brookeslay · 06/02/2012 09:28

Sorry for your loss

I know how you feel my mother died yesterday. I do not have a photo of her and my youngest either. I am pleased your family are near keep them close I am sure they will support you, take one day at a time.

There is a Cruse helpline if you would talk to someone also they funeral parlour normally have lots of leaflets that make good reading. I organised my step fathers funeral and it helped to be in quiet place sometimes to reflect.

LiamsMummyJaz · 06/02/2012 10:08

Oh I am so sorry for your loss also. I just feel so numb at the moment. My mum and nan are doing so well. I just feel like an emotional wreck. I hope that you are ok xx

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brookeslay · 06/02/2012 11:33

Everyone handles death differently they might be numb or in denial.

Can you take a small picture of your youngest and a larger one of your Grandad and pop them into a frame together. Put some flowers next to it and maybe light a candle.

I though i will buy a rose for my mum to plant in my garden something she would have liked.

Thinking of you xx

brookeslay · 06/02/2012 20:53

Hope you were okay today and looking after yourself. I feel a bit drained and foggy oppressive weather doesn`t help.

LiamsMummyJaz · 08/02/2012 09:27

I'm so sorry I haven't posted. I've been at my nans for most of this week. She's dealing with it very well. It's just hard knowing that he's not going to be there again I suppose. Thank you do much for you kind words. I hope that you are feeling ok. The summer will be here soon x

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niknakpaddywhack · 08/02/2012 09:34

LiamsMummyJaz and brookeslay so sorry for your loss. Grief is such a personal thing - you have to do what you feel is right for you. You are both in my thoughts x

brookeslay · 09/02/2012 16:43

Im glad that you have had some company, send your nan my best wishes. You sound a little better Im glad your looking on the bright side my mothers favourite time was Spring she didn`t like it too hot. x

thank you for your kind thoughts niknak.

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