Another loss???????

[quackers]

Hi all, Just wanted some opinions on this if anyone can help.
I have had strong pg symptoms for about a week, even felt where it implanted and had enourmous boobs, nipples and going to toilet loads. I use temping and had the 'perfect' pgcy chart. Then yesterday felt symptoms lessening, today temps has dropped quite a lot. Therefore I must have been pg but only for a week.
Does this mean I had another miscarriage?? Do they count a week as a loss or just a failed embryo?
I feel empty and disappointed cos I was so near yet so far. If I have another they will send me for tests but am reluctant to say it's a third just yet.
Thnaks for any advice!

Poor you. Is this monitoring making you feel better? It sounds as if it might be better not to know, just wait and see what happens and then times like this would slip by without you even knowing. Can you try and forget about it, focus on other things in your life and see what nature brings you? Easier said than done, I know. Sending you big hugs and lots of love.

Quackers - I really truly think that this constant temp taking and saying that you "felt where it implanted" is NOT helping you.

Look how upset you are now. Unfortunately for many mnay women if this happened they would just think their period was a week late due to stress (or something equally vague) and move onto next month.

Please please please stop torturing yourself like this.

Quackers, sad to hear about this disappointment. No advice to give, only cyberhugs.

Quackers - I agree with M2T & Janstar.

If you perhaps stop thinking about it so muchand let nature take its course, then perhaps it will happen? x

Quackers, I did the BBT chart and all of the things that go with it after my loss and I drove myself (and DH) potty. I also never fell pg. Although I later learned that there was a reason for this (I had stopped ovulating), I just want to say I do understand your reasons for doing it. But I am sure that your GP will refer you for basic tests ie: blood etc without you having to go through the agony of another m/c (which I pray you don't). Could you not ask for this? I don't suppose this helps much but will be thinking of you.

hi quacks - i'd say don't count it as a loss. You know how it goes on this ttc lark - I can't tell you how many months I was convinced I was pg but then turned out I wasn't. Wait and see and go for it again next mth if not!
take care

Awww, Quackers. What can I say? It's easy for us to say don't count it as a m/c as it's not us. I'm sure you know yourself that if stats took into consideration the number of women who were preg then went on to have a 'late' period, m/c figures would soar. But I'm going to add my vote too - please don't see it as a m/c, that would be a lot of torture and you've had so much. Thinking of you,
hana
x

Quackers I am so sorry at hearing your news
hugs and take care
xxx

Quackers, I have been following on and off and I just wanted to tell you how badly I feel for you as this is something that you want so much. I don't even know what to say to comfort you--all the advice here is so well-meant and given already. Try so hard to be kind to yourself and keep yourself as healthy as you can. I don't know your entire circumstance at all Quackers, have you tried Cranial Osteo to see if there might be some reasons for this that can be discovered without painful tests at this time? If you don't feel ready to go to the GP, maybe going an alternate route this month would help you before going for additional bloodwork. I am always up to try anything, I know it must be terribly hard to face the disappointment, I can only imagine. Sending hugs from across the ocean.

Quackers ... you are obviously feeling horrid at the moment. Look after yourself xx

Hi quacks, just wanted to say I'm sorry about your disappointment. I've no idea if what you have experienced is classed as a miscarriage or not by the medical profession, but the fact that you believed that you might be pregnant makes it hard to bear, doesn't it? When I had my first m/c in March, at about 4 and a half weeks, I didn't even call it an m/c (then), even though I had had strong pregnancy symptoms. The second time, in May, at about 5 weeks, I decided that it was most definitely an m/c (I had done a test too), and that that's what the first one had been. Weirdly, when I did get pregnant again, in July, I didn't have any obvious symptoms before I missed my period. I don't know if any of this helps, but thinking of you xxx

Gosh thankyou all for your very kind words. I am very encouraged by what has been said as I didn't want to sat it's another. I guess I was panicking yesterday, also had appraisal at work so was really het up! I read back the messages I posted yesterday and I was like a woman possessed!! I am fine today and keep you all posted as intriguingly no AF yet. Thanks as always for just being there and hope I'm there for any of you in times of need,
LOL xxxxxx Quacks

Just caught up with this thread and I'm so glad you are feeling much better today Quacks. I cant even try to conceive until I see my consultant and in a way it's a bit of a relief. Ttcing completely takes over doesnt it?!

hi quackers, i think we had m/cs at around the same time, didn't we? well done for getting "back in the saddle" (that is not the most felicitous phrase, but, hey, i'm sure you know what i mean) so soon. i'm still very much a-dither about the whole thing now. so... well done, fingers crossed for you and good luck!

Quackers - you have been lovely to me before. You are one of those regular mumsnetters that I feel I know. Lots of love to you.

Quackers, how are you today? i really hope you are a little better. You have probably heard this a million times and more but try not to get too stressed about it all, i tell myself aswell, easier said than done i know, but its better for us if we try to relax some more, and just have lots of sex every other day!! Surely thats gotta do it! Fingers crossed. Your time will come quackers. thinking of you, lots of love and luckxxx

Hi quackers
How are you feeling today? Thinking of you
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Hello everyone. Firstly BK, yes we did m/c about same time, you'll get there chuck. You know when you;re ready.xx
Bunny - hope you;re doing ok, get a few boozy sessions out the way over Xmas and you'll be ready to see Cons.x
Brunhilda, that is very kind of you to say that. I have just caught up with your news on the other thread and I'm very sorry. Thinking of you.xxx

Well, little update, did a test as no AF and it's positive!
Trying to see this as a new and individual pgcy and praying this one 'delivers'
Thankyou all, you're little gems and i don't know how I'd cope with my 'moments' without u lotxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Positive!!!! What? Fantastic news - very many best wishes for a much-deserved succesful pregnancy.

Yes! What could be better!

fantastic! congratulations!

Congratulations quackers. Keep positive and fingers crossed.

Quackers!! your news has made my day! Huge congratulations!!xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx