My best friend's mum just died. What can I do/say?

[TinyDiamond]

She passed in her sleep last night. They knew it was coming, not that it makes it any easier I know.
I have sent her a text saying if she needs anything to let me know and that I'd like to be at the funeral but I feel like I want to do more for her and her family but don't want to intrude.
What do I say?

I lost my dad recently and we found flowers and card a comfort. But also there is so much to arrange and deal with when someone dies, that practical help is very much appreciated. - Some one made us a couple of meals to put in the fridge because which was great because you don't feel much like eating and tend to not bother to cook. Another friend helped with shopping and preparing food for the wake.

Anything like that, or just going round to chat. It meant a lot to my mum that people who were very fond of my Dad made the effort to come round and tell her how much they'd miss him.

My best friends mum died 18 months ago after a long illness. I took her a bag of utter shite: trashy magazines, chocolate, smoothies, sweets, bubble bath, tissues, body lotion. Things that would be easy to grab in a multitude of situations. I also took round food that could be reheated - just so her and her sister had something there they wouldn't need to prepare but was nutritious and filling.

To be honest, when my dad died, I cant really remember who / what / where anything or anyone was - so just make sure she knows you care and any thing else is a bonus.

when my mum died, a good friend popped a meal over..a ovenproof bowl with homemade curry in it that just needed re heating. she left some microwave rice and some popadoms. she left them on the doorstep and texted me to tell me they were there.

it was the first thing id eaten in about 4 days....and the one thing i remember.

the other thing is to keep being around. people forget and a week or so after the funeral, i felt abandoned. keep in touch.

sorry about your friends mum. you sound lovely x

Second the reheatable dinners. When dd died, I could not have been bothered to cook and couldn't phone for a takeaway as I couldn't bear dealing with normal day-to-day situations and couldn't talk on the phone without crying. My neighbour dropped over a shepherds pie and it was perfect.

I agree with everyone regarding food. I baked loads of cakes and made sandwiches when my aunt died as you seem to constantly be making tea/coffee for people coming to pay their respects but the immediate family didn't want to, or have the time to shop. It also meant they could have time to speak to people coming to pay their respects while we did the tea making and clearing up and a bit of housework.