Today would have been my dad's 78th. birthday

[OberonTheHopeful]

Just wanted to write it down somewhere really. It's the second without him and I thought it would be easier, but it doesn't seem to be.

I was out shopping last week and caught myself thinking about what to get him. I wish he was here, I miss him so much :(.

I know how you are feeling - My dad would have been 93 today 3rd year without him and I still see cowboy books/films that he would like and for a split second think of buying them. Your thoughts are my thoughts today.Take care and take the time to think of the good times.

I know how you are feeling - My dad would have been 93 today 3rd year without him and I still see cowboy books/films that he would like and for a split second think of buying them. Your thoughts are my thoughts today.Take care and take the time to think of the good times.

Thank you for your posts they've really helped, I know how you feel. I think birthdays/Christmas are especially hard. It's been eighteen months and most days are a bit easier but little things can still set me off.

It's not like I didn't know today was coming, but there seems to be no real way to prepare for it. Last year I took the day off and ended up being on my own so this year decided to work. I don't think it made any difference really.

rufusnine, I don't think that the 6th. December will ever be the same for me again. I think our dads would have wanted us to be happy, and I'm very thankful that I have so many good times to think back to. My dad wasn't prefect by any means, but he was the perfect dad for me.

It sucks doesn't it. Sorry you're feeling it today.

My dad died 3.5 years ago and it's still tough. I think any new thing, new direction my life goes in there'll be that little reflection on what he would of thought about it. It has got a lot easier and the daily gut-wrenching sadness has gone for me but there are times when you can be caught by surprise and I expect if you were close there always will be. Hopefully the nice warm memories will be the things that bring you to tears rather than the sadness.

i have a video of him during the good times and when I watch it its sad but great at the same time -its him how i want to remember him -having fun and a joke and for a few minutes he's back in the family with us!

The last few weeks have been really difficult for other reasons and I don't think that's helped. It never mattered what was wrong, I didn't even have to tell him, he just seemed to be able to make it better. Even if only for a while.

I don't have a video but I've been looking through some old photos and letters today and it's helped me think of the many good times. He could be serious when he needed to be but had such a great sense of fun.