eulogy for my mum

[golemmings]

My fabulous mum died on Monday. We're in the middle of planning the funeral and dad has said he would like me to speak.
I have told him that I don't think I could hold it together but he is not in a space where he can concentrate on or remember anything.

He wants me to talk about my memories of mum which I can do over dinner with friends but I'm not sure I could do infront of a large crowd in church.

Any hints as to how to structure something and get through it would be much appreciated. I really can't afford to fall apart because my toddler will be there and I need to stay strong for her and my dad.

Firstly condolences to you on the loss of your Mum.

I spoke about my mum's childhood and her early life followed by her life in the WAAC and post war years. Really a potted autoboigraphy.

I kept the emotional part until the end when my voice had warmed up and I was more relaxed.

But,but,, if you speak from your heart it can only go well.

I send you strength to see you through these bleak days and joy from your child .I know I talked about the pleasure my mum got from her Grandchildren.

Thinking of you don't forget to care for youself.

I am so sorry for your loss. My mum died 4 years ago this Christmas. I also did my mums eulogy. Try to include a funny story - it helped me. My mum dyed my hair when I was a teenager and it went orange. Most people at her funeral remembered the incident and we all had a laugh which really helped me get to the end of the eulogy. Good luck, I am sure you will do great.

I wrote out my eulogy to my mum and read it out loud at home several times to practise getting over the difficult bits. It took a few goes before I could read it all the way through without breaking down, but it did mean I was able to get through it at the actual funeral.

Good luck - the guests will all be rooting for you.