shall I tell them the sad news together or separately?

[mckenzie]

MIL's lovely partner died this morning and I have to tell the DCs. They know that he has been ill but his death has come very suddenly.

They are at different schools so I can either collect DD and tell her and then go and get DS and tell him. Or bring them both home and tell them together. My mum is here so I can be very flexible.

Any advise gratefully received. I might be able to keep my composure with DD (6) but I know I will not be able to with DS (10)- he and F were very close and DS is a very sensitive soul.
TIA

so sorry mckenzie. If you tell DD before getting DS, isn't there a chance she might tell him before you get the chance to explain it the way you want to? Perhaps wait until you get home and your Mum's there, so even if you decide to tell them separately, your Mum will be on hand to take DD away whilst you have a longer talk with DS? Likely to hit him harder. Not a nice thing to have to do, whichever way you decide x

thanks for the reply lilolil. I am going to bring DD home to my mum before getting DS anyway. I think I might just have to go with the flow.

hope it went as OK as these things can.

thanks lilolil. DD was very upset but only for about 5 mins and then moved on . She then through a few questions at me while eating her tea but on the whole has been very matter of fact about it all.
DS was very angry with the government for not spending money on finding a cure for cancer then very upset thinking about all the good times they'd had in the past and how they wouldn't be doing that again and then even more upset about his nan. He wants either for her to come and live with us or for our cats to go and live with her - she must not be on her own. He was very sweet actually, very concerned for her well being. Thank goodness for children huh? Today has been hard but it's been made easier, for me at least, by these two.