Has having a M/C changed you ?

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Posting under an alias for this. I have had 2 early M/C this year at 5w & 6.5w. I got over hte first one, only to have the 2nd 6 months later in August. Now I really don't know whether we should try again (I'm almost 39) but also have found that it has changed my outlook on a lot of things. I was working full time but now want more time with my son whos just started school, work does seem that important right now. My outlook has changed on so many things since August - which has suprised me. Has anyone found this?
Sorry for rambling about nothing in particular I just wondered about other peoples experiences

I know I have changed. I'm not feeling as social or as excited by things any more, except my wonderful daughter, she makes me come alive. It's just a part of grief and depression I guess.I'm hoping it won't last.

Work isn't as important to me and my family are much more in the front of my mind now. Sadness and loss makes you appreciate those things more.

MC does change you and I foundmy hardest one was my last mc as I had a ds so realised even more what I had lost.
I have had early mcs at 6wks and 7 wks. Last mc was horrible as was missed mc discovered when I was 15wks but baby died 9wks. So had to have whole D+C etc plus had a 14mth old. Has made me a lot more panicky this pregnancy and am having baby next thurs but still darent believe it is real.

definately changes you - there's no way it can't. I had a still birth last Wednesday (I was 6 months preg) and suddenly my love for my 3.5yr old boy has grown beyond belief and I appreciate him rather than find fault with him far more now. Also I listen to other people's problems/conversations and I think 'get over it - that's nothing!'. I think I might be more intolerant of things I consider unimportant. Flipping through Vogue mag will never be the same again - all seems so pointless and superficial.

The things that are really important are magnified when you have an experience like we all have. It puts life into perspective I guess.

I've had two misc at 6 and 11 weeks, during the last year. The second being pretty horrendous physically, requiring an ERPC. It certainly changed my thinking about the ease at which we can all conceive and have healthy babies. I would become extremely frustrated with friends who would say - we are going to get pregant in so and so month so the baby will be born in so and so month... interestingly this hasn't actually happened with any of them. I also became very protective over the fact that I had had them and wanted absolutely no-one to know bar our immediate families and close friends. I felt I could only talk to women who had children as I had a feeling that women who hadn't would have absolutely no idea how I was feeling. At the time I think by admitting what I'd been through would be like admitting to failure. I have even managed to keep it under wraps at work - I work in a huge department and couldn't bear the thought of people not knowing what to say. It made it so much easier going back to work after my 'stomach virus'. I went through an awful stage of thinking maybe we would never ever be able to have children, but I'm a very determined person so we decided we wouldn't give up - but keep trying.
I'm now just over 16 weeks pregnant - of course we are thrilled but I can't quite bring myself to make any big announcements. Simply because I know how easily things can go wrong...I'm hoping after my 21 week scan I will really start to relax and hopefully start to enjoy it!

Xbox as I haven't already got a child I can't completely understand how you feel but my advice to anyone who has miscarried and still wants to have children is don't give up!

My first pregnancy, conceived in 2nd month of ttc, ended very early on in m/c.
It took a certain degree of 'innocence' away - I conceived again 3 months later and spent the first two trimesters in an acute state of anxiety, as I was so much more aware of how fragile it could all be. Also, very rarely have I experienced such extremes - to get pg so quickly I was even a bit reeling from it, and then suddenly (the m/c happened very quickly indeed with few warning signs) to come crashing back down again - that has changed me. The whole experience made me 'older' in many ways.

I had my 2nd miscarriage at 16/17 weeks last May.
I consider it to be the 2nd most traumatic thing that has happened in my life (after my mother dying). It has certainly taken away any joy associated with pregnancy. Any hope/confidence i feel with this pregnancy is quickly dashed because I know only too well that any thing can go wrong at any time. Also when I hear of someone else being newly pregnant rather than being totally happy, I fear for them.
I agree work holds a lot less meaning for me, and would prefer to spend my time at home devoting my energy to family life.
Regretably I have to say I am a bit more negative about life. Life is not fair....and sometimes there is nothing you can do about it.