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Bereavement

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I miss my mum so much,

12 replies

steph19 · 27/05/2011 20:53

I lost my mum on xmas day 2010, and i miss her so much :(
i do nothing but cry and my days seem to go on forever, i feel so alone. will i ever overcome this horrible feeling :'(

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gkys · 27/05/2011 21:10

I am so sorry for your loss steph19, it gets better I promise, I lost my mom 4th dec 09, I still cry every now and again, and still miss her like crazy, I find myself thinking, nI will give mom a ring,,,and then remember. you need to find a focus, we had ds 3 september last year,I didn't realise I was pg till may, my thyoughts are with youxx

ajandjjmum · 27/05/2011 21:12

So sorry steph - you don't get over the loss of someone you love dearly very quickly.

But you owe it to yourself, your mum and the rest of your family to try and start focussing on the future, and making some happy times. Do you have children? I found that my DD particularly got upset if I was upset when my Dad died, and that helped me to start moving forward again.

Just think about what your Mum would say to you if she could see you moping!

Mamie76 · 27/05/2011 21:17

sorry about your loss, but cherish the good times you had towards

Mamie76 · 27/05/2011 21:21

sorry about you loss, but cherish the good times you had together

petaluma · 27/05/2011 21:34

I lost my mum last october. Sometimes I think I feel the sadness more profoundly now that the shock and initial grief has gone. However, what helps me is talking to her sometimes when I feel like it and keeping her memory alive by talking about her to my ds, who is still too young to understand or remember her, but it comforts me, and eventually he will know, through me, who he's with in the some of the photographs as a baby.

I'm sorry for your loss, of course I am, please know lots of people are feeling very similar, even when they don't show it on the surface. :)

sphil · 27/05/2011 23:08

My Mum died a year ago tomorrow morning. A year ago at this time I was sitting with her and all the family in the hospital. She was amazing - saying how her life had been 'such an adventure' and how it was time to 'bow out gracefully'. She was only 73, and she should have lived longer .
I miss her terribly and cannot believe a whole year has gone by.

AngelPoppy · 06/06/2012 19:05

My Mum died unexpectedly Jan 2010. The first 12 months were a bit of a depressive, drunken blur resulting in a nervous breakdown on the anniversary of her death 2011. I'm now 38, 21 weeks pregnant and manage to look happy most of the time. I have 2 boys from my first marriage and am so thrilled and excited about the birth of my daughter but..... I miss my Mum.
My partner and I both have stresses in our lives at the moment and he isn't 'there for me' at all. I feel unloved, unwanted, unsupported and unprotected and I just want my Mum. I have no-one. Absolutely no-one. I don't even know who will be with me when I give birth. I just want my Mum :(

Ponyofdoom · 06/06/2012 23:53

So sorry Angelpoppy; I think I feel the same as you..my darling Mum died 2010 too, I loved her more than anyone, she was my best friend. My dad died a few years before so I feel very alone too. Hugs to you and the other posters who have lost their Mum. I guess we just get through one day at a time xxx

t875 · 07/06/2012 20:49

I am going through this. I lost my mum 2 mths ago and I miss her like crazy. I am struggling loads right now with my youngests birthday coming up and knowing my mum would have been excited and heavily involved. But I miss I can't talk to her and her answer. Or just to give her a big hug Just kills some days it really does.

I keep her memory alive and talk to her but the void is huge some days.

So sorry to hear of everyone's loss of their mums on this thread my thought are with you all x

CoffeeDog · 09/06/2012 13:17

My mum died last month - i miss her and often pick up my phone to call her....

I went to the remeberance garden in the church yard for the first time today since the internment of her ashes. I was worried i wouldn't remeber where she was (waiting for a plauque still could be 3 months ;( )

I saw that there were already 2 more sets of flowers there It seems me sis and dad all went this morning ;)

t875 · 11/06/2012 00:33

ah you all thought the same bet that was nice for you.. hope you are ok. and getting through your days the best you can. x

littlemefi · 12/06/2012 21:42

My mum died in February, she was only 71. I miss her so much...I just went to ring her and remembered she has gone; I feel so cheated. I have a 2 year old dd and I talk to her about 'Granny'; I don't want her to forget.
Sorry to hear of all your losses...thinking of you going through this time.

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