Help me write a letter to commemorate the one year anniversary

[Cristiane]

It's nearly a year ago that a friend of mine and her daughter were killed suddenly. I would like to write to the husband and father, and I have just a complete mental block about what to say. I want to just provide support and love but even using the word 'I' seems so hard to do. I cannot even imagine the pain he is still suffering and I know that nothing I can say can help, but I think it is still a good idea to write? To let him know that we are all thinking of him (we live far away)? I don't think he has begun to accept what has happened, he still talks about them in the present tense.
Any advice please of what may provide scant comfort would be really appreciated.

If it's any help, I think you already have the essence of a nice message there. I don't think anyone in your position can find the 'right' words. Just writing that you are still thinking of him, cannot imagine what he is still going through and are still there for him will mean the world xx

Send a card? Contemplative pic or something that would have meant something to your friend? You won't need many words, and if he wants he can put it on a mantelpiece and feel your message of "thinking of you" whenever it catches his eye.

Thank you, both of you. I will write something similar uncle fester.
I will try to find a picture they would both have liked. That's a great idea, nice cage.

It's a lovely thing you're doing, by the way. Nothing can "fix" his loss, but feeling less alone - and knowing other people remember and cherish his darlings - is hugely important.