my lovely mum

[plymouthmaid]

My amazing mum died last week. I dont know what to do with myself I cant seem to accept that it has actually happened. I cant explain how I feel it just feels so unreal as if it hasn't happened. I dont know what to do to come to terms with the reality of the situation and to get my head to engage with the reality of the situation.

So sorry Plymouth - I'm sure it's completely natural not to be able to grasp what's happened. It's still very very early days. All I can suggest is to take it one day at a time - and think how happy she would be to see herself described as your 'amazing mum'.

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.

It's so early in your bereavement - you're in shock. It will start to sink in gradually. The thing about grieving is that it is different for everybody, so don't be thinking that you should be feeling a certain way or anything...just go with it...and take good care of yourself in other ways e.g keep eating well, talk to friends etc.

(hug)

Plymouth

I am so sorry to hear your lovely mum has died :(

As others have said, it is very early days, and you may feel a huge array of emotions, all of which are totally normal and understandable.

My mum sadly died 4 months ago, and even though I was there when she died, I still couldn't actually believe it.

The funeral may be of some "help".

Can you tell us any more about your Mum? Understand totally if you don't feel like "talking".

Take each day, and be kind to yourself. x

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your Mum.

I do think that you are in shock. Even though you saw her it can still feel unreal, like a really rubbish dream.

My dad died 3.5 years ago and it still feels a bit weird, although I have come to terms with it.

If you want to talk about your Mum or about your feelings then talk here. Sadly most of us have experienced what you are going through.

My dad died (youngish) nearly 20 years ago. Sometimes it feels like yesterday. You get used to the gap a loved one leaves, I think, in time, but I don't know if you ever really 'get over' the loss. I've recently been told that my lovely mum has Alzheimer's, and like you, plymouth, I'm shellshocked - 'I don't know what to do to come to terms with the reality of the situation' - it's just one day at a time, and lots of hugs and crying.....

My mum died last June only 7 weeks after her diagnosis of cancer. I still cannot believe she is gone. I know she is, but its all so unreal. Still early days.. We'll get there. Much love plymouthmaid.

So sorry for all our losses....my lovely mum died in August last year, she had lung cancer and died 4 weeks to the day of diagnosis although it was a year ago tomorrow that her lung collapsed and everything went tits up!!!

I have bought the book "Motherless daughters" and it is very interesting.........thoroughly recommend it!!

I think losing my mum is now part of my identity, part of me, and reading the book I find thats not unusual. One lady describing herself said she was tall with brown hair and her mum had died!! It also says that grief is not something to be done and dusted in a year or whatever so if you think you should be "over it"......well you shouldnt so dont beat yourself up about it.

I still feel very bitter about mums illness, the way she suffered and ultimately losing her but hopefully the nice memories will wipe out the bad ones in time!

Hugs to us all ...here's to our dearly departed.

That book sounds interesting; I shall be getting a copy.

Hope everyone is ok.

My mum had Lung cancer too BS. It was the biggest shock of my life how quickly it took hold. I feel exactly the same way you do. Ive just had the first birthday without mum, she would of been only 66 if she was still here. She died less than a month after her 65th birthday so we have the first year anniversary in a few weeks time.

Big hugs to everyone. x x x