Holiday with MIL

[leedslady1]

MIL ownes a holiday flat. I had planned to take my mum and dc there in school holidays. Mum passed away last month. DH has said you could still go with my mum. NOw MIL is nice enough but I really don't want to do this.
Will probably go with a friend or other family member. Just a little worried this may cause offence.
What do you think?

No. If you hadn't planned for MIL to be there then I can't see how she could possibly take offence.

So sorry for your loss.

leedslady1 - think it might be risky to go with your m-in-law. You might still be in shock after only a month or it might suddenly hit you and you could be really upset that your Mum-in-law is there and not your mother. However nice she is. I found it really hard to be round my husband's family after my parents died - it seemed to emphasise the loss and was in no way any kind of substitute. Someone said bereavement works its way through you and you have no control over it. So true. You never know when you are going to feel overwhelmed. I would take the pressure off yourself and go with someone else. Your mother-in-law, if she is nice, would understand. With the best will in the world, until you have been through this (and your dh hasn't) you can't understand. My dh sympathised but couldn't really understand because he still has his parents. Hope this helps. Thinking of you.