My Dad died and it doesn't feel real

[delphinedownunder]

My Dad died this week and it doesn't feel real. I haven't cried and when I think about him, the memories seem fuzzy and insubstantial. Will it start to feel real soon, do you think? The funeral is a week on Tuesday - I have to fly to the other side of the world to be there and so i am stressing more about that at the moment. I feel most abnormal as I do not seem to be able to be sad about my dear dad.

I am so sorry for your loss. I don't think there is a right way to grieve, it will just happen in its own time for you. Take it one step at a time. Maybe it does not feel real because you are far away.

So sorry about your dad.

Both my parents have died while I've been on the other side of the world, like you, and I think it will seem more real once you are over there. You will still be in shock to an extent.

I am so sorry. Once you have the funeral that will help you. It will take time just to start the process of grief. Been two months for me but it helped having the funeral. Hugs

I am so sorry for your loss.

Like others have said, there is no right or wrong way/time to grieve. It is such a personal thing.

Take it easy.

Sorry about your loss.

If you don't see someone very often, then it is very normal not to feel the enormity of their death. I know this is how I felt/feel about both my mil and mother.

My mother died two months ago and her funeral, although sad in itself, was an opportunity for reconnecting with people I had not seen since my wedding 25 years ago. Bittersweet just scratches the surface.

I think it is hard to feel the reality of it if you don't see them regularly because on a day to day basis it isn't very different. When our dad died I was at home and my brother was away and I think it took him much longer to grasp the reality of it.

Grief is an odd thing as well - it hits you in unexpected ways and at unexpected times.

Hope the journey and the funeral go ok.

Sorry about your loss....what you are experiencing is totally normal. I think it is out bodies way of getting us through the initial stages (funeral etc).

Grief is the same but different if you know what I mean - we all grieve differently but it certainly seems to have stages - shock.numbness to guilt to depression etc etc.

Very early days for you so look after yourself, be gentle on yourself. I am eight months down the line from losing my mum, it's very hard! xx