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A friend of my sister's and DH's died today :-(

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DooinMeCleanin · 27/04/2011 21:25

She took her own life, leaving behind a son of about 14/15 years of age and daughter aged 19.

I feel so despretely sorry for the daughter. Her father also took his life when she was a baby Sad. I can't even begin to imagine what the poor girl is going through.

My sister is devestated. I think DH feels a bit angry with himself as he hadn't been in touch with her for a while. He also feels for her children.

I only met her a few times but everytime I did I could see what a generous, caring woman she was. She always made me feel welcome and at ease.

She will be very much missed.

If anyone happens to recognise this and knows her children please let them know people are thinking of them and there are lots of people here if they need anything at all.

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PlopPlopPing · 27/04/2011 22:20

That is so sad. So sorry for your loss. Her poor children Sad

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PlopPlopPing · 28/04/2011 09:48

I lost a relation to suicide. I don't think the stigma is as it used to be but still it will be very confusing (to say the least) for those children.

Do they have someone to look after them?

thinNigella · 28/04/2011 11:11

Experience here too. The biggest question for us is 'why?' why did you never...
ask for help
tell us how bad it was
tell your doctor / nurse/ social worker /neighbour whoever, even if you couldn't share it with us?
was it loneliness? Sadness? Grief? Depression? Why was there no note?

Suicide leaves so many questions and guilt, along with the knowledge that ultimately it's too late. And it such a waste, somehow, if you knwo what I mean.

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DooinMeCleanin · 28/04/2011 11:27

Yes it feels like such a waste to me and I didn't know her that well so I can only imagine what her family feels. She was always so ready to help others.

My sister said yesterday "I should have phoned her. I might have been able to say something" Sad

Her children have a lot of people around them. They have Aunts and a Gran and the daughter is very popular and has a good network of friends to support her. Her son is still in touch with his father.

She was a very popular lady and I'm sure all her friends will do everything they can to help her children.

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