Stepping away from Facebook

[virgo1]

Having lost a parent I posted on facebook as an easy way of letting people know. Now I wish I hadn't as I am:-
seeing people who couldn't be bothered to comment on my loss comment on how sad it is that some random actor has died.
People getting more comments about the loss of their dog than I did over loss of a parent.
Know I am just feeling very raw and sensitive at the moment or are people really that shallow. Or was I just wrong to post in the 1st place?

I am sorry for your loss.

I think people may feel a little strange about commenting on something like that on facebook. However, I know different people cope with grief in different ways. An acquaintance of mine lost a baby at 22 weeks and has grieved very publicly on facebook but i have been unable to offer my condolences in that way as it just makes me a little uncomfortable. But, as I said, each to their own.

Also, I think the most important thing for you right now is that you cope in the way that is best for you, and it doesn't seem like posting on facebook is helping you at the minute.

I hope you can find some peace. And it is the people who are there for you in person, or to lend an ear over the phone who are your true friends.

It is very possible that they haven't seen your post. The default setting for people's news feed on Facebook is that they'll receive news from the people they most interact with/ whose pages they visit most regularly. This isn't necessarily a reflection of popularity - I have a habit of visiting personal pages when I find someone's update particularly annoying. So I ended up in a situation where my newsfeed consisted mainly of the updates of annoying people, and other people's updates weren't included at all. I was so happy when I found out there was a way of changing that and now my newsfeed includes everyone who updates.

If these people who commented on other things don't often seem to come to your Facebook page, then maybe they never saw your post in their newsfeed. So please don't take this personally, there are many reasons why people may not have commented and probably one of the least likely reasons is that they care more about an actor/ dog than your father. Regarding your question of "was I wrong to post", a lot of people do update everyone on Facebook on their bereavements so I think it is seen as appropriate by many, though I personally would feel umcomfortable doing that. As breadandhoney said, each to their own, I don't think it was wrong for you to do.

Wishing you all the best.

virgo - i did the same about my beloved dh last week

but i got a totally different response from you (sorry)

i had 100's of comments on my status that said dh had died, all saying sorry for my loss

many also replied on my wall and my friend is printing off all the comments for me to re read overtime

as obv only have friends on fb,i find it therapeutic to blast out status's how im feeling and always get replies

kinda like cheap therapy tbh

im so sorry for your loss :(