I would like to send a text/talk to my sister who has just lost her mother.

[Librashavinganotherbiscuit]

My older half sister (shared Dad) lost her mother 10 days ago, it was sudden and unexpected. We like/love each other of course but are not in particularly close contact, an email 3-4 times a month and probably see each 1-2 times a year. I would like to send her a text this morning (and then phone this evening) to let her know I am thinking of her on this day which must be adding salt to an incredibly open would already, problem is I have no idea what to say in the text without making her feel worse. Is it a bad idea to text just because it's mothers day? especially as I am lucky enough that my mother is still alive and I am seeing her later today (which she will probably be aware of as my mum and her dad are still married).

This day must be difficult for so many of you and I'm so sorry for your loss, which must be felt more keenly today as you still have to keep a smile on your face for your children.

Its a lovely thought, and I think I would want to do similar. I think I would stop at "more keenly today" though. Maybe add something like "Take comfort in your own children and know that your mum is at peace"

I think I might say something very short if by text like

Thinking of you today x

She'll know what you mean.

Thanks imnotaslimjim - she doesn't have children (her choice). My last paragraph wasn't what I was going to send her I just didn't want to post in Bereavement and then run without also sending condolences to the people on this topic who have lost their mums, as you can see I'm not great with words!

Thanks Suzi.

Echo what suzikettles says - something simple to let her know you are thinking of her. Having lost my own Mum that is what I would want.

A phonecall later would be a lovely thought too.

My friend lost her mun 2wks ago. I sent her a text which simply read Thinking of you this mothers day.
She very sweetlly replied thinking of you too (been many years for me tho). We know what each other thinks without the use of words tho.