without my mum on mothers day

[floury]

I feel so devastated this year as mothering sunday is so late in the year and I just feel I have been reminded so much that she is not around. She never got to see my son. Some years having a child has made it better but it is not always the case. I feel so envious of women with their mothers out and about and I really don't want to see any tomorrow. Has anyone got some good ideas as to what to do each year to make it a bit better?

Sorry, havn''t got any answers. Just didn't want to leave your post unanswered. I'm lucky enough to not be in your position, but my thoughts will be with you and others in your situation tomorrow.

It's my first this year, its so hard.

So know how you feel. Lost my mum middle of March this year and I am really strugglimg too. Found myself in tears today in Asda, Really don't know how I am going to get through tomorrow. Going out with dh sis in law and mil and dc.

I lost my mum when I was 26, just before I got married. I had a mum in law, who I loved but I was also searching for my natural mum. I cried at cards in the shop, always bought some fresias for her picture at home and felt better/worse when I had a child. I had three children and when I was pregnant with my fourth, "found" my mum. I still buy my now ex-mum in law a card that says "like a mum", I have a mum in law (who's difficult) and my natural mum, who is wonderful and who I bonded with straight away, even though she is ademanant that she's mo "other" mum and she's really grateful that I had such a wonderful family to grow up with.

I still grieve for my mum, but know she is watching me with my children, and smiling. Take a small moment on your own, to think about her, maybe light a candle and buy some flowers and make sure your child knows about her (my kids know that Nanna M would have loved them to bits).

Your mum would do anything to be there in person, but she can't so just think of her being around and maybe laughing at daft things you and the family say/do. Blow her a kiss and hug your little one very close.

Have a good day tomorrow x

My mum died when I was 8 and I've spent my life yearning for her. I get really sad that my dd's don't have a Nan, (MIL passed away before they were born too). I missed her terribly when I gave birth and always feel sad on mothers day. i just try to focus on the dd's as they like nothing better than spoiling me and giving me treats and the love they show me always helps me through. So sorry for those of you who have a more recent loss, that must be very hard

Thanks for the comments. Unfitmother I know the first year is hard and and much worse for you than me , you somehow find a way to hang in there. Thanks stickyj that is a good idea to light a candle and to have a quiet moment - sorry about your Mum . I have just been reading the SOBS ( survivors of bereavement by suicide) website and an account of someone else who has lost a parent to suicide so that has been helpful and maybe where I should be going.

When your own Mum has been so lovely it is just heart breaking. For those of you who have just lost a Mum cruse bereavement care can be helpful.

Yes, everyone have a good day tomorrow.

I will light a candle for my mum tomorrow. It is the anniversary of my dad's death today and I am feeling very fragile.

floury I could have written your post. I lost my mum 2 years ago next month and she didn't get to meet DC4 which I still struggle with. She knew he had been born (abroad) but she died just before we were due to fly home so she could meet him.

I had mixed feelings when I woke this morning. DC3 and 4 brought me a present and card but I still had the urge to phone mum.

My way of 'coping' is to make a donation to her favourite charity (GOSH) on days such as today. I set up a memorial page for her (and dad) and on her birthday, mothers day, christmas etc make a donation which makes me feel I'm doing something positive and she is not forgotten

Sending best wishes to everyone else who has lost their mum

It's been a difficult day, nearly time for

I'm really sorry to everyone here who has lost their mum on this day. It is still their day, even though they are not here to experience it.
Raising a glass to all of our mums, those who are around and those who have gone on.