Name a star for a recently passed child, what would you want re dates?

[fiveisanawfullybignumber]

Sorry to have to post this but I'm really struggling with a memorial gift for a dear friends daughter.
This precious little girl lost her life recently at 22 months of age. I'd like to name a star for her, a friend or two might even join in so we can get a bigger package. Some come with little extras like an engraved keyring or paperweight.
The companies ask for a date, my question is would you want something to recognise your childs passing, up into the heavens so to speak, or their birth? I'm completely torn but don't want to upset my friend anymore than she already is.
I really hope this doesn't offend or upset anyone but thought this might be the place to get a reflective answer. Thank you.x

I have no experience of a child passing but I think your desire to do such a wonderful thing to commemorate her life and passing is truly special.

I think I would want to remember the birth rather than the passing.

I hope you don't think this reply is short - I wanted to respond before I have to dash out. I am sure many more will respond soon.

If it was being done for me I would rather the birth date.

How thoughtful and kind you are to be doing this for your friend.

What a lovely idea.

I woud suggest you remember their daughters birthday.

Thanks for your replies. Will do birthdate. I was worried about it and thought if we went for one with a keyring for example, that would be the last thing you'd want on there on a daily basis.

I personally would have been very touched and grateful for such a gift. A memento seen on a daily basis would be a welcome thing rather than a negative one.

Definitely birth date - As a lovely friend said to me the birth date is full of 'could of' and 'should of' beens but the anniversary of his death is just shouldn't have been full stop. I think your idea is a lovely one, very thoughtful xx