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We scattered my dad's ashes today

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tigerdriverII · 20/03/2011 23:51

That's it, really.

He died a good few months ago, but mum didn't really know what to do with his ashes, but yesterday asked me to take her to a hilltop with a lovely view, and we did the deed today. DS was with us. It was a huge effort for my mum to struggle up the hill, she carried the box all the way.

I don't really know how I feel. Mum did the scattering, and had a little cry, so did DS. I spread the ashes about - this was very odd, I felt as though I was kicking my dad, but I couldn't just have left a pile of ash on the ground (there was so much more than I thought there would be).

It was very peaceful and wild, a beautiful view, very high up. The sort of place he loved.

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TysonNobdie86 · 20/03/2011 23:53

Sorry for your loss tiger, it sounds like a beautiful place you chose.

follygirl · 21/03/2011 14:03

Sorry for your loss tigerdriver. We planted a small tree on top of my Dad's ashes. I had to empty the urn of its contents which felt very strange. It's not quite real is it?
Hope it brings you some peace.

1944girl · 24/03/2011 02:01

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