Letting go of the past

[AverageJoe]

Hi, my wife felt that she had no other option than to terminate her pregnancy some 10 years ago and hasn't been able to move on. The pregnancy was terminated at around 14-15 weeks and she never found out the sex of the child which has troubled her greatly, even though she has been lucky enough to have had 2 other children.

I want to help her put her demons to rest and feel a celebration of that life is appropriate, but not knowing the sex of the unborn proves challenging to reconcile. Can anyone suggest suitable ways of rememberance... it was mother's day 10 years ago, so always very poignant.... thanks in advance.

try the chinese luna calander to give a better idea ofthe sex, its worked for all pregnancies that i know of!
our wife needs to accept that she done what was right for her at the time and regreting the past wont make it part of her future.
x

Joe, has she ever had any counselling? Is the problem caused by not knowing the sex of the child or more by the fact that she had to terminate? As everlong says, perhaps the hospital can help. They may also know of the optios for support.

To do something in the way of remembrance is a lovely idea, if she thinks so too. Do what feels right to both of you. A memorial tree or shrub planted in your garden?