DD1 just asked me where my mum and dad are

[FGM]

I'm so sad for both my loss and for my DDs' lack of grandparents.

Mum died when I was 15 and dad died when I was 24, although he stopped living when we lost mum.

Sometimes I feel like a fraction of the person I could have been- like a bit of patchwork just about holding together. Losing mum devastated us and life became very desolate for a long time.

Now I have these two amazing, bright, funny, chatty, dancing, singing little girls. I am blessed with them. But I am so sad that they don't have any grandparents around to dote on them, be impressed by them or to take them out (or give me a break) DH's parents live in Australia. DH is studying for an MBA. I am exhausted.

Sometimes when we are out at a cafe older people make lovley comments about my girls- they are very animated, as you'd expect at 4 and 2, but polite with it. And I find myself biting my lip. What I really want to say is "please stay and play with us- my girls don't have any grandparnets"

So sorry for your loss.
My father died before my children arrived and i miss him every day.
I often think how much he would have loved them. Fortunatly i still have my mum who is a great help.
I know it ma y sound daft, but you may be able to adopt a granny, i know many old dears whose family live miles away.

Thanks Mollymax, I do wish I could adopt some grandparents. You're right there are probably lots of older people who would love to have younger people in their lives too.

Do you attend a church or other social group where there are different generations, that is often a good start.

FGM - so sorry you have lost both your parents.

My mum died a few months ago and my dad lives in spain. DH's mum has severe dementia and his dad died 6 years ago.

I feel cheated for my DS - cheated that he doesnt have doting grandarents - well my dad adores him but lives in abother country. we have befriended one of our neighbours, a 66 year old lady who lives alone and never had kids. My DH did some work for her and we became good friends. She adores my DS, spoils him rotten, collects him from school and we say she is his adopted nan.

I sooo know how you feel, GP's are so important to kids and its so sad when they dont have them xx