My lovely FIL is dying after a very long illness. He is in a hospice hundreds of miles from us. We are going tomorrow to say our goodbyes. DH seems very calm but must be tearing up inside. The DCs are 5 and 3 and love their grandad. Are we best not to take them to say goodbye? They saw him at christmas and will remember him as having had an illness for a long time but able to sit and talk to them. He is now bed ridden and on morphine. Dh said he will go first to see if he looks OK before bringing children in whereas I think he should go without us and I will come down once my sister is able to take the children. Any opinions on which is best? What do we say to prepare the children for his death (my five year old is particularly switched on and asks about death alot. Once he has died what can I do to help DH. And of course my MIL who will be so far from us.