Gift suggestions for a dying mother pls

[cookieraymond]

Hi

A school friend (31) who recently beat cancer has just found out it has returned and there is no treatment this time so it is just a matter of time.

She married in 2007 and has with 2 young girls. After her second was born last year she was initially diagnosed, got the all clear around October and found out last week it has got her again. Her husband lost his mother to cancer when we were at school.

Its such a tragic situation it brings me to tears just thinking about it.

Anyway, we have been in touch through facebook for a few years as she moved away, and our kids are around the same age so went through the pregnancy together etc so although we are not 'that' close i feel i want to do something for her, send her something.

but i dont know what to send, so was hoping you lovely people could come up with some good, sensitive, proportionate suggestions

Thanks

A nice necklace,a posh notebook.

I think shed appreciate your 'friendship' just being there.

as your a school friend do you have photos from her younger days. Could you do a your mum when she was young book for the girls, inc stories from when you were at school, scrapes you got into ect.

Some books/ stories on disks...when she's feeling too poorly to read etc they'll be nice to listen to.

Because shes terminally ill it doesnt mean shes in her bed dying so she might just appreciate 'normal'.

Is there any way you might be able to visit her in person? I think that would be a lovely gift in itself.

Could you promise to keep in touch with her children? I think I'd value that above everything else.

thanks girls, getting back so quickly

I wasn't actually close to her at school, we just knew of each other as it were, and if it wasn't for facebook and maturity we would never have been in touch!

But through the wonders of technology and a happy coincidence in having our children around the same time we shared some good moments 'online' over the last few years!

My heart is leaping for the fact that she is a mother - and I know how that feels - and that she will have to leave her children behind - and that breaks my heart.

So the school memories idea is lovely, but I am sure there will be others doing that for her. And as for visiting, I guess it feels a little 'ott' as its not something i would ever have considered doing before.

I guess that tells me I am looking for something that is from one mother to another....

This is really helping though, please keep your ideas coming and thank you so much

xxxxxxxxxxxx

How about something she can pass down to her children?

I have seen books that you can get for different members of the family/friends that one person writes their memories of person that the book is intended for.

Not sure if you have the sort of relationship with her where you would feel comfortable sending her books to do for each of her children?