my dad died

[happymandy]

I lost my dad on 12 December 2010 I think of him all time and I was very close to him I miss him so much and find myself crying at odd times in the day and I seam to have lots of questions why could i not have a few my years with my dad? why take him before christmas? did my Dad know how much I love him before he died? I just miss him so much and I keep wanting him back but I know he will never come back but my dad is very much in my heart I just hope it gets better I love my dad very much and I just find life hard without him when I at my mums I forget my self and I will call from the kitchen dad would you like a cup of tea then i remember he is gone and it upsets me all over again its just not the same at mums house anymore and I find that so hard and tips or advice would be very welcome thank you

So Sorry happymandy :(

How old was your dad? Would it help to tell us a bit about him? Your best memory? Thats how i cope with missing my dad, i think about the things that made me love him so much.

You never quite get over the anger that your father is taken from you, but it does get easier i promise. Lost my dad 5 years ago, he never met my beautiful DD and he would have loved her so much. I know that she has the best gaurdian angel in the world :)

One thing i CAN promise you though, he knew how much you loved him xxxx

so very sorry for your loss.
it does get "easier" my dear dad died 2 years ago next week and I miss him so much, but the pain is duller now and easier to bear.
but wanting to ring him to tell him stuff is still there...
your dad would have known how much you loved him, be kind to yourself, cry, shout let it out.

Sorry about your loss. Wonderful Dads are irreplaceable. I lost mine in April 09, so coming up 2 years fro me, like 2shoes the pain is less intense, but I so remember the confusion and utter grief you feel at first.

I was a mess for about 18 months after losing mine, somedays I am not sure how I carried on putting one foot in front of the other, but I did.

What support do you have?

Someone on MN recommended this book to me and I still pick it up and read through it now.

Keep posting on here, there is a great support network.

I really feel for you loosing you dear dad . Time will pass and although you will miss him dearly, you will slowly slowly get used to him passed away. He knew how much you loved him and he knows now how much you still love him and miss him so despearately.
Read one of Sally Morgans book and it will make you realise that we go on after our physical bodies die. .
.Our spirit lives on in the atmosphere IMHO and I believe our relatives still see what we are up to. I have heard and seen evidence of this so many times.

What did he die of happymandy ? Was it very sudden ??

My Dad is 82 and was in hospital 2x over the new year and I honestly thought he was dying. He has heart failure and very breathless, so one day it will happen and he will die. I will miss him too as he has being a lovely father> Plus, I have the terrible job of caring for my mum who is getting Altzheimers.

We support you here lots and lots. xxxxxxxxxxxx
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Happymandy I'm so sorry about your dad. My dad passed away about three weeks before yours. I feel exactly the same. I have had a very bad week where I thought I was actually starting to lose it but hopefully coming through that a bit now.

There isn't a day where I don't cry and I think about him so many times each day. I'm also finding it tough supporting mum.

Wish I could offer some advice, just want to know you are not alone.

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sorry for your loss, it takes lots of time and don't be too hard on yourself

I lost my dad when i was a child, it still makes me upset and i still miss him. One of the worst worries is not remembering things, times you shared fade a little as years past by, that upsets me now.
Would it help to write some things down and keep a trinket box with some cards or photos of special times. Hard to do, gather, sort, but very comforting to look back on when you are feeling down. Talk to your mum about your dad, not talking because you might upset each other is of now use. Ask your mum, if she would be OK to sometimes talk about your dad and things you all did. Tell her it would be a good thing to do, I think it helps.