Grieving for a child I'll never have the chance to meet

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How do I move on from this?

It hurts so much.

I was put on this earth to be a Mummy. It's never going to happen.

doesn't come anywhere near to how I'm feeling.

No-one understands I am grieving for someone I have never even had the chance to meet.

I read this and don't "know" you but didn't want to leave it unanswered. Perhaps you could tell us a little more? I am so sorry that you are hurting, I wish I could help in some way

The chance to have a child has been taken away from me.

I will never get to say hi, let alone goodbye.

I don't know where to start.

I am so sorry that you are hurting so.

Do you want to talk about what happened?

I don't understand how you are feeling but I think you are completely "normal", "reasonable", "correct" to be grieving for the child you always thought you would have.

I am so sorry to read that it isn't going to happen for you. Please be kind to yourself, you do need to grieve x

Periods are pointless.
They're just a monthly reminder of what isn't, won't & can't be.

I hate walking around the supermarket - the baby aisle makes me cry.

Nappy adverts always seem to be on the tv being advetised.

I can't escape it. I've known for years but instead of it getting easier like people said it would, it's getting harder & harder.

Just give me hug, that would be the best thing. Thankyou.

Big hugs

Have you had anysort of counselling for this recently? Perhaps it's something to consider?

(HUGS)

Do you have someone to talk to? It is such a shit shit thing.

I've tried talking. It's been sooooo long (in their eyes) that this has been going on for, that they tell me I should have got a grip by now.

I did see a councellor & she was an absolute star. I had to stop seeing her because the funding stopped & she had to start charging me a fee that I could not afford.

I do try to remember & go over everything she said & it does help (on a good day!)

Thankyou both for the hugs. I hope you are both ok.

My good friend is in the same position. It is truly awful and there is no "getting over it" because it is not a problem with a time frame.

And because there are so many idiots who make stupid and unfeeling comments.

Hi there,I really don't know if this will help as I havnt a clue what your circumstances are but a colleague of mind was told about five years ago she will never have children.She lived with it for three years and then out of the blue she became pregnant and now has a healthy baby boy. I hope I havnt totally misunderstood your message and made things worse.

Hugs.x

I do know how you feel, without going into too many details.

Only time will lessen the pain.

Give yourself time to grieve.

Look after yourself.

Big hugs.

I don't know how you move on, I have had 2 MCs in the last 13 months I am seeing the Women's Health Counsellor at my local hospital. I couldn't do it without her. I find everything hard and depressing. I don't know what to suggest I am so sorry - HUGS xxx

Thankyou for the hugs.

I need lots of hand-holding!