Tribute to my dad -2nd christmas without him.

[anastasia74]

I need him to be here to show me who I am
To show me where I came from.

When he left, part of me left
I am someone different now.

I need to touch and hug him
To let him know how important he is

I want him here with us
I want him here with no pain

My dad loved everything about christmas. the carols.the trimming up. the food. the socialising. the family.

He loved getting dressed up -always looking smart - like he was just about to go to a wedding. It will never be the same without you dad.

Love and miss you always dad.xxxxxxxxxxxx

Have you sent him a Christmas card and put a new star on your Christmas tree? You've already posted your memorial here, though - good start! Posting something about him to make him live in other people's imaginations as he still lives in your mind and heart.

I'm really sorry that you are still so sad, and even seem a bit depressed (need him to tell you who you are), but of course you are someone different. Grieving does change us, and, besides, you are now someone who has picked up a torch from an older generation. You're someone with someone living inside your heart.

Is the problem that you are still sad and feeling unhappy? If that is the case, please step back and realise that unhappiness does persist, that it is not wrong. It's very, very hard, but if you were to give up on it and bury it entirely, you might then start to suffer from guilt! Please do let your grief run its course (and remember to do some things which would have made him laugh), but don't be untrue to yourself, no matter what. These things seem to come back if we bury them "untruly" (if that makes sense)

I'm messaging you separately, as I remember you from your earlier thread about him.

I feel the same. It is now 4 years since my Dad suddenly passed away in his sleep just before Christmas. This time of year is the hardest to cope with; having to stay strong and be positive for the children when all I feel inside is utter grief. It's only just hit me why I feel so uneasy, shaky almost- as though the ground beneath my feet could suddenly crumble again and I will be back in that moment when I heard he was no more.

All I can say is that I was blessed to have had a Dad like him and can draw comfort from the fact that he knew how much I love him and always will.

Thank you Dad for always being there for me, for giving me strength and conviction, for trusting me and never judging me. You are sorely missed each and every day. I love you.

3 times I've typed something and 3 times I've deleted it.

So, just Happy Christmas to you Anastasia. My dad is no longer with me either. Particularly hard at this time of year, as he died on Christmas Eve.

Lots of love. x

valleymouse and MaureenMLove, just wanted to say I have read your posts, so the memorials didn't go unseen. There are still eyes out here to see what you write about them. (although I must admit mine will soon be closed - bedtime).

Sweet dreams, all, and a beautiful Christmas to you, too.

It's now the 3rd Christmas without my Dad. He died suddenly on November 22nd 2007. I still find it hard and miss him so much.
I do count myself lucky to have had him as my Dad he was amazing, kind, and a true gentleman.

Thankyou for your kind words. Love and strength to everyone at this particularily hard time, I suppose it's a measure of just how much they were loved - that it feels like this. How lucky we were to have that.xxxx

I'll add my memorial too.

RIP Dad 11.2.1919 - 11.11.2009

Good night, all.

A Happy Christmas to you all, and to your remembered loved ones.