coles nana needs advice in shock still

[colesnana]

Hi Wednesday Selt 14th 05 was both the happiest and saddest day of my life. I got to hold and love my first grandchild a little boy called Cole. Sadly at only 23weeks and 3 days of being inside his Mummy my daughter he was born. His little heart beat for only a few minutes and he did not breathe.We are totally devastated and my daughter is bereft since the Docs told her it sems the problem is an incompetent cervix. PLease if anyone has either gone on to have babies after this problem or knows someone who has let me kow so we can gain some comfort. Thank you Coles nana

haven't been through this myself, but my thoughts are with you and your daughter.
((((hugs)))

Oh I'm so sorry. How terribly sad. I've no experience but just wanted to say that I'm thinking of you and your daughter. Hopefully someone will be along soon who can help you.

xx

Thanks for your message hugs are good.Its like a big black hole at the moment as a mum I want to protect her from pain yet i am trying to deal with my own pain and hers luckily her partner is the best kind of Man she can with. I spent today putting his little photo in a frame and my daughters husband has made 2 small photos fit into silver heart lockets one for me and my daughter so we take him with us always I am so glad I was able to spend time with him. I dressed him into his own babygro snuggled him in with a fluffy rabbit and wrapped him in a blanket.

colesnana, so sorry for your and your daughter's loss.
A friend had this problem, she too lost the baby, in her next pregnancy she had a cervical stitch at 13 weeks and took it easy during the rest of the pregnancy, the baby arrived safe and sound at 40 weeks. Hope this can give you some comfort.

That's so sad Colesnana, and I'm very sorry.
I do hope your daughter will get the help she needs in future, but I'm sure that won't help what you must all be feeling now.

I am so sorry, colesnana.
Don't know what to say, except I am thinking of you & your daughter.
xxx

So, so sorry for you all . My aunt had this, and sadly lost 2 babies until they found out what the problem was. She had a stitch put in too, and went on to have my cousins (2 boys). Hugs to you....

Colesnana - I am so sorry to hear your news.
I don't have any experience of this but hope that you and your daughter can take some comfort from some of the experiences on this thread.

tears

I am so sorry for your families loss (((hugs)))

SANDS (Stillbirth and Neontal Death Society) may be able to offer you and your daughter more support and advice.

Hi - this happened to me, but my dd was 26 weeks and survived an hour. I now have another 2 children, ds 11.8 and dd 13. With both of them I had a cervical stitch put in at 13 weeks - just to keep them there.

My heart goes out to you and your daughter, my first dd would be 14 next month, it does get easier but you don't forget.

Is she having a funeral for her ds? We did and found this really helped as there was a place to go afterwards.

Any questions you may have please just ask away. Big hugs to all of you. X

HI Thanks, yes Coles funeral is next week and I have written a couple of verses to read I will write them down here. I am not a poet but was compelled !!

Verse 1
You came into my world silently
Though I knew you before
I lifted you up into the shelter of my arms
And wrapped you up in my heart

Verse 2
Wherever you go and whatever you do
My spirit is here and it stays close to you
I know you can't see me
But know I am safe
As I play with the angels in beauty and grace.

Than you all for the messages they really do help me. I had to go and see a friend tonight to see her 5 month old grandson it was so hard but I had to go as I did not want my friend to feel hurt. I hugged him close and cried into his little chest. not great racking sobs but silent grief and yet in a strange way it was comforting. My DD and her DH seem to be coping better that me. Love Coles Nana x

Have tears for you, it's so sad

Sending you and your family lots of love

Your poem was beautiful