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Can someone tuck me up on the sofa with a cup of tea please?

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fruitstick · 06/11/2010 22:34

I'm feeling sorry for myself. Both of my parents died from cancer when I was in my twenties, before I had children.

I miss them terribly although I do have a great support network in my brother and sister and a lovely husband. They are always on hand to look after DSs whenever I need them to.

However, at the moment, I really painfully miss someone to look after me. I'm rundown, stressed and just a bit weary. Nothing drastic, nothing dramatic, just your average mother of 2 knackeredness.

I know if my mum was here she would make me a cup of tea and sit me on the sofa while she mopped my floor for me. Or at the very least she'd turn up with lasagne.

I know now that noone will ever love me in the same way that my parents did and that makes me incredibly sad. Sad

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geraldinetheluckygoat · 06/11/2010 22:43

awwww Fruitstick Sad sorry you're feeling so down, If I were there I would certainly instal you on sofa with box of chocs and a big glass of wine (it is saturday night, after all!) Smile

Borisismyhousespider · 06/11/2010 22:46

{{{Hugs}}} Wine and chocolate coming your way.

BecauseImWorthIt · 06/11/2010 22:48

I'm sorry. I don't think you're ever ready to be without your parents, no matter how much other people love and support you.

My mum died 6 years ago, and I miss her terribly.

BecauseImWorthIt · 06/11/2010 22:48

Oh, and I forgot

cat64 · 06/11/2010 22:54

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fruitstick · 06/11/2010 23:05

Thank you all for the tea, wine and chocolate.

I feel better already.

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chimchar · 08/11/2010 06:52

this is the thing i miss the very most about my mum...its the being "mothered".

that someone to take over when you're too worn out, that person who reads between the lines even when you say you're ok....

the one who comes and helps because she wants to do it for you, knowing that you are too independent to ask for help.

hey...shift over on that settee...i'll join you, but insist we upgrade our tea to hot chocolate with marshmallows and cream on top! x

fruitstick · 08/11/2010 22:46

Chimchar, thank you for summing it up so well.

I have hobnobs!

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