A friend's eldest db died over 50 years ago as a toddler as a result of a household accident. The next child had (has) profound SN and is still a major responsibility of the parents now in their mid 80's. My friend and her dh and dc have a great relationship with the parents. My friend's youngest db and dsil, who are are christians, do not have a good relationship with his parents and appear cold towards them. The db can't understand why they still feel so upset about the eldest son's death. What can my friend do to help?