My baby girl

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10yrs ago today and it still hurts like it was yesterday

I miss my baby girl so much, strange how you can miss someone you never really knew.

Can't type it all now but explains it here

And to top off an already great week, my partners lovely Nan died Tuesday night. I haven't had to emotional strength to tell the kids yet. Does anyone know how I should tell them. Sounds awful but right now I don't think I could deal with their sadness too

That is so sad, I'm so sorry.

How old are your kids? Where they close to your partners nan? Are they likely to be very upset? You never know they might be a great comfort to you and stronger than you think.

It's the older ones who are 8 and 6 that it will affect quite a lot, they saw her quite often and really loved her

They have a lot going on this week/weekend so I think I'll tell them early next week. Don't want to spoil things for them.

Thank you for your post

So, so sorry. I am thinking of you.

Thank you xx

Sorry you're going through so much pain right now.

With regards to how to tell the children about your partner's nan, I'd say simple and direct is the best approach. Something like: "Nan was very poorly and she died." Then give them the opportunity to ask questions / cuddle / cry or whatever.

Btw, I think you're right to give yourself a chance to get over the initial shock of bereavement before telling them. But don't hide your own sadness from them when you do tell them.

for you.