Does anyone else feel this?

[Fabster]

I have just read my 3 children's report and for one of them I learnt lots of things. I didn't know she had been an eco-monitor and is good at science.

I feel a bad mother for not knowing this, please tell me that you discover new things from your child's report.

Lots of children choose not to talk about what they do at school. They keep the two worlds separate for some reason. I think it's fine for you not to know as long as you are around to talk when your children need you to be.

They don't appreciate an inquisition at the end of the school day but if you really want to know more you could try asking later in the evening or over the weekend. Try to find a time when both your hands are busy so it's a bit more low key and ask specific questions. It's easier to answer "What did you write about today?" than to answer "What did you do today?".

HTH

Thank you , good points.

I always found if I asked my DDs "what did you do today?" they would say "nothing".
But if I asked "what was the best thing that happened today?" or "What was the worst thing that happened today?" I would get lots of information.

Just be happy the things you did not know were all good.

I think it is normal. I found that DS had been student of the month with a £5 token.....6 weeks later!
Never ask directly-you will only get 'nothing'!
Driving them in the car with friends is my best way of hearing about things-for some reason they think that the 'taxi driver' doesn't listen!

I usually ask my son 'did anything interesting happen today?' on the way home but there never seemed to be anything much. At his class end of term open day there was a noticeboard full of pictures on 'things we have done this year' and there was my son, often sitting in the front row with.... firefighters, african dancers, indian story-tellers, England track athlete... and one where he had a very large python draped around his neck! Nothing interesting... no....

It all sounds quite normal then for mum to be the last to know!