Getting 7 and 5 yr old to sleep - threats or rewards?

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Having lots problems getting dd (7)and ds(5) to sleep. Sunny evenings and heat don't help but they are just mucking abouts and disturbing each other so
much. I threaten no tv for next day and often carry through but wondering whether rewards might work better. Tired and hate an unpleasant bedtime. Also got 9month dd to get to sleep too.any thoughts experiences would be great. Thank you

Are they in the same room?

We put our nearly 4 year old to bed first and wait till she is asleep before putting out nearly 6 year old to bed.

We had an awful time for a while and this is sooooo much better.

Yes in same room and same bed which sure doesn't help but dd loves sleeping with someone so it has worked well in past. Are getting two single beds next week so that might help. Glad you have found something that works for you.

I do a little bribery too tho lol. Each is promised a treat for the next day. A dvd or holding the dogs lead on the walk or whatever.

I'd try the younger one going a bit earlier. May work? Good luck anyhoo x

Rewards work for DS (3.5) - at first it was a small treat (a chocolate the next morning - this was for maximum impact and of course, being 3 he doesn't get much chocolate normally), then a few stickers to get a toy and we added an extra one each time he finished one sticker chart, so we are now up to 9 stickers in order to get something. I usually buy the item and place it on a shelf as a reminder. This was to encourage going to sleep at 7pm, not waking me in the night and not getting up til 7am, so a sticker when he's managed all three things in one night.

It must be hard when they share a room, I don't have any experience of this - would a bit of self monitoring work, ie. they both have to be well behaved to get their stickers, or would this cause more problems?