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2yo waking up screaming at lunchtime

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Casserole · 05/07/2010 14:06

Hoping someone can help as at my wits end!

DS (26mo) has always been a pretty good sleeper both at night and during the day. He always loves going down for his lunchtime nap and goes off to sleep no problem. Most days he would sleep still for 2 hours at lunchtime if left to his own devices BUT he never seems to wake up happy after this sleep anymore. He is always at the least grumpy, and recently is waking up full on rigid, screaming, red faced and inconsolable for half an hour or more. I've tried letting him sleep as long as he wants. I've tried getting him up after half an hour / 45 / 60 minutes to see if that worked better but to no avail.

Today he fell asleep in the car on the way back from the park this morning. I let him have an hour but then had to wake him up for preschool and he was just beside himself sobbing, redfaced, clinging to me and in the end after 20 minutes in the car park and then in preschool they had to prise him screaming off me and carry him in .

He does love his preschool, it's definitely not that, it also happens on non pre school days (he only goes 2 afternoons a week), and they rang me 5 minutes later to say he was fine, but I am still a wreck!

I don't know what to do - I'm wondering whether to cut that sleep out altogether but he does still seem to need it; he has on a few days managed without it but is exhausted by the end of the day and then struggles to cope the following day. But then I can't go on like this!

Also to say he never wakes up screaming like this in the night, and he always wakes up fine and happy in the morning. It's never happened at night. But it's happening almost every day at lunchtime and I am frazzled! Oh, and it happens regardless of where he sleeps at lunchtime too, we're almost always at home for his sleep but today it happened after he'd slept in the car, too.

Any advice welcome, thanks [sob]

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itstimmytime · 05/07/2010 14:09

My 22 month old has been a wee grump after her daytime nap lately too at home and at nursery. Watching with interest.

Chil1234 · 05/07/2010 14:15

"I let him have an hour but then had to wake him up for preschool"

Hell hath no fury than a child woken up before it's ready. I would suggest you go back to letting him sleep as long as he likes/needs but make sure he has plenty to eat beforehand and a drink/snack as soon as he wakes up. Low blood-sugars can be a reason some people wake up feeling like bears with sore heads.

emdanmum · 05/07/2010 14:30

My DS (now 4) was similar after his nap at that age. I found cuddles and warm milk worked well (once he'd agreed to have a drink!)if he needed to be woken. But TBH it sounds like he's still tired? Or hungry? It's awful when they get so worked up.....poor little man
My DS's behaviour changes when he needs a drink-very grumpy and irritable, but he won't ask/say he's thirsty. Could your DS be thirsty? Does he have a drink before he settles down?

Karoleann · 05/07/2010 14:31

Both mine do/did that. I just pop them in front of cbeebies with some milk and a cuddle and they're usually fine after 20 mins or so.

emdanmum · 05/07/2010 14:31

Sorry Chil1234 .....seem to have repeated what you've said!! Just re-read

tingelingle · 05/07/2010 14:36

My DD screams like this too and has done for some time. Hungry, full tummy, long sleep, short sleep. Nothing really makes any difference. I started to see her point when I started taking naps (pregnant!). Sometimes I'd wake up so thick headed and grumpy.

With my DD I put the TV on and gradually give her a bit of milk or a biscuit. If I offer it straight away, she has another breakdown. She vegs in front of the TV for 30 mins and then miraculously after some time pops up her normal self again. I know people don't always like TV but actually, in this case the 'zoning out' that children do in front of it is probably a good thing.

JoandMax · 05/07/2010 14:39

DS1 does this and always has - he's 2 next week. Wakes up happy and chatty first thing but grizzles and grumbles after lunch nap.

Like other posters I just stick cbeebies on for 20 minutes, given him a drink and biscuit and before long he starts smiling, then chatting then racing around like a mad thing.

Casserole · 05/07/2010 16:15

Thanks for all your replies.

I have tried making sure he's had something to eat and drink before his sleep, and I always have something to eat and drink ready for him when he wakes up; I usually do what you've all said - either we cuddle while he comes round or he watches a bit of telly for 20 minutes or so.

So I guess I'll just persevere with that. It is at least comforting to know lots of you have the same thing! We've only got 3 more preschool sessions before the summer, and then he goes up to the mornings from Septemberm so it'll be easier to pick him up and then let him sleep; at the moment it's almost impossible to get a good lunch into him before his sleep AND let him have any decent length of sleep before getting him there for 1.15.

Thanks all for your replies.

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